Idk how to deal with this.... I want so badly to tell the person that I love why I don't want to have sex with him.. I'm afraid to tell him I have type 2 herpes.. So I decided to tell him that I've decided to be abstinent from sex and he's been so good about it, him and I haven't had sex for two years and we been great friends. I've just recently found out about my situation two months ago, I want to be close to him again but idk what to do, I'm afraid he'll run and hide
I'm just trying to understand your situation here. You and your bf have been abstinent for two years, you found out you have type 2 Herpes two months ago? You want to be close to him again? I would say if you plan to become intimate with this person you have to find the courage to tell him. It's just the right thing to do. Don't worry about if he runs and hides, better not to give someone something that we ourselves don't want. Hope this helps. :)
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I'm sorry I know my message was kind of all over the place. He's my ex but we have been great friends since the breakup and of course we still spend a lot of time together and when things start to heat up I stop it everytime. I don't want him to think I don't want him in that way. But you're right, it's something that I do want to protect him from so I should tell him. I just don't know how to say it
I try to avoid the "I need to tell you something" preface. It sets the tone in a serious, negative way. Can you mention it in passing way that lets him know that your herpes is no big deal? I read one gal's story- she and the guy were talking about their experiences at the doctor and she told him a story about getting diagnosed. The focus was on the doctor, not the herpes, but the information was out there. The guy asked about it and she explained. (set up "the talk" without setting a negative tone.)