please tell me if you think this is bad of me, i know i shouldnt be just wondering around fucking people, but hes not like that, we work together, and hes been asking me out for months, but ive always had a bf, i find him attractive, but not in the physical way, more in the hes funny, makes me laugh, and we got stuff incommen, he has a daughter thats 11 years old, shes only 10 years younger than me! and shes adorable, we get along great, but hes old enough to be my dad... and i like that hes old, hes more matture that any other guy ive dated, and believe me im due for a good man, not a boy. does anyone out there think im wrong for being with him? or am i just over thinking it? cuz hes gotten annomas phone calls from people telling him to stay away from me bcuz of my age, and i dont care, .....idk im just looking for some advice, plz
I think one should always be cautious about entering into a relationship w. such a drastic age difference because it is going to be harder to have things in common, similar life goals (like do u want kids/does he want more), and be in the same life stages. It is also always harder to be in a relationship where there is a child from another marriage/relationship. I know you mentioned you got along but if you were to get serious-it is hard to help raise someone else child & amplifide by the age difference because she may not respect what you have to say/listen to rules etc. I have children from a previous marriage & i know my husband has a hard time knowing what his boundaries are because he is not their father but still wants an active role in their life. Anyway-that all said you are both adults & if he treats you well/you are happy no one has a right to tell you not to be in a relationship. My advice would to be cautious considering age difference/possible differences in life goals but other than that have fun & like any other relationship see where it goes. Best of luck & thanks for sharing!
thank you so much for your input queenmama, its realy nice to hear it from someone with kids from a previous marrage, i havent realy thought about how we're diffrent, bcuz we get along so good, same interest, but ofcorse its way to early to mention kids in the future, altho he does know i want atleast one of my own, and if we were to become more serious i think he would atleast be open to the possiblity of haveing another.. but as of now, i was just wondering if the age diffrence is too much, he realy doesnt act like an "old man" but thats only cuz i dont like to think about his age, i just have fun with him, but we arent even realy together yet and people are already giving us a hard time for going out together and stuff, idk... :-/
Hi Shavonn. I am married to someone older than me (I am 20 he is 32). People always judge if they know the age difference; but what really matters is how you feel about your relationship. I agree that it is important to have similar interests, goals etc & with a much older man if you want children in the future that could be an issue for some (although u mentioned he'd be ok w/ it).Also, if you become serious the fact that he has a child already is a concern because it could lead to future issues etc. However, relationships are always a gamble, so my advice is if your happy be happy! Age is just a number..what is important is how he treats you & makes you feel!Best of luck in your new relationship!
well thank you very much! but i dont think you and ur husband arent that far apart in age, ive dated guys that are early 30s and ive never been judged for that, but now that im with a guy in his early 40s its like im 16 again trying to date a freshman in college, ya know what i mean, lol.
I should mentioned that I got w/ my husband when I was younger (in my teens) so the age thing did get stares (now not so much exept I am 20 w/ 3 kids so then people are like wow lol but when I was a teen we were embarassed to share the age difference). Basically-in my opinion as long as two people treat eachother well & are happy=that is all that matters.Ignorant people judge couples who date outside their race or if someone is homeosexual-and drastic age differences but everyone should mind their own bussiness. It is really up to you who you want to be with & if someone else has a problem with it-it really isn't their bussiness.
i can share with you that about 6. years ago i was 27 years old roughly. i lived in Connecticut and my girlfriend was 46. point being we were amazing together. love knows no bounderies as you get older like round 30 you figure this out and not care about anything accept youth immediate family. good luck to you and don't passover love for indecision.