I'm divorcing my husband of almost 31 years. I'm not sure what to call him. He's the adult child of an alcoholic and a "recovering alcoholic" who won't call himself an alcoholic, and he admitted that he has a social drink on business trips when he infrequently travels. He's basically cheated on me throughout most of our marriage in spirit and at least physically one time when he was caught. A marriage counselor told me that my husband is "incapable of intimacy" which explains why I've felt like a lonely single mother for entire marriage. The cheating incident occurred 8 years ago. I've gone through great spiritual counseling and was able to forgive him, and for the most part, leave that baggage behind. It seems like our divorce is going to be amicable. Neither one of us has a grudge at this point. I planned on doing mediation with both of us using the same lawyer. A friend was horrified and told me that I need my own lawyer or I would get ripped off. Any advice? We're divorcing in MN.
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I'm sorry your going through a divorce. We're here for you. It's my understanding that even agreed divorces are tough. I'd venture so after 31 years. If you're fully aware of your assets; kids all grown; and you trust him, mediation should work. I didn't know one lawyer was "allowed" to represent opposing parties. Check that out.