I'm in the process of making a big life decision, moving. I'm looking into moving in with my cousin if I don't get a job near where I'm living now. The relocation would be in a different state so it's a big decision to make. I'm hesistant one because I want to know the outcome of this job I interviewed for yesterday and 2. I'm becoming concerned for my cousin's well being. I'm very aware it's not my job to make sure she is ok but there's a part of me that feels like I should be that person because she does trust me more than anyone and can be her authentic self around me.
My cousin had a psychotic episode over the summer due to drugs. She was put into a mental hospital for the summer where she was diagnosed with schizophrenia. I've learned a bit about mania since the incident and seeing how manipulative people can be in that state to convince people they are fine when that's not the case.
Given what happened over the summer and how she's been begging me to move in with her because she's lonely. I even woke up to 11 long texts from her this morning saying how hurt she is I'm being hesistant about moving.
The occurrence just made me very concerned in what mental state she's in and at the very least I feel like I need to at least visit for a week or 2 just to see how she truly is.
I don't want to make any mistakes in such a big decision so I feel like this is the right move before I commit to moving in with her just for it not to be the best idea. I haven't mentioned anything to family because I seriously don't know what direction I'm going to end up going down.
Any words or encouragement or prayers would be appreciated.
I think you are right on target with your intuition that moving in with her may not be the best idea. The fact that she sent you 11 long texts in one night, filled with how hurt she feels is a sign that she is rather unstable. After all, would *you* send 11 long texts in 24 hours to someone, each saying the same thing, filled with hurt and guilt-tripping? I agree, it is a sign that she is mentally unstable. I think your idea of staying with her on a 1 or 2 week visit is a great idea. That way, you can see how she acts when you're around her, and you can see if you are comfortable with the ways she acts. When you're there, you can also see if she is in crisis and needs something, like a therapist or see if she is taking her meds. I hope you will not move in with her just because she is guilt-tripping you.
@L2015 yea i think that’s the best approach is just test it out for a week or 2 and see how she reacts while I’m around so I can make a decision to make it perm or not. It was 11 lengthy texts within a 15 min time period early in the morning that’s why I grew concerned. She later apologized the next day for the freak out which makes me feel a little better but I can’t just act like that never happened. She’s been fine every since thank god so I’m just keeping my eyes open and paying attention on how everything flows for the next week or 2
It's a challenge to live with a mental patient. Especially if they are unstable. Maybe consult with therapist, psych doctor, or mental nonprofit organization to get some opinions. You shouldn't have to give the patients name to get some feedback.
@bebobaBetty I’m sorry but she’s not a mental patient. She is a family member who has mental health issues. Yes she was in a mental health hospital over the summer but she is not currently. She is living just like any other normal human being. I’m trying to figure out if it’s a good idea to move in with her or not based on what state she is in and if I feel it would be in both our best interest to do this. I am in the medical field but I’m not looking to move in with her as she would be my patient. I would be there for support as a family member.