I'm learning that not being anyone's priority is a very lonely way to live
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I'm literally at the bottom of everyone's list :(
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same here. and mainly because everyone I knpw has a wife, kids. different priorities.
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@brandongoodguy exactly the same here and even if I meet someone I’m never first priority either
and it's not anyone's fault either. but
not having someone to share life/things with doesn't help though
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Everyone is wrapped up in their own lives. It helps to build your own and keep busy, that way you won't notice if u r not a priority bc you won't make anyone else a priority.
We only feel unimportant when we give someone else more importance than ourselves.
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How about making you yourself at the top of your own priority list?
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Yes, it is a lonely life.Making yourself your own priroty is a good thing to do but it has been a process for me ... And not an easy one...
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@Elenii Wow, you hit the nail on the head @aurora. Most times we wasted a lot of time worrying about , how we’ve nobody to shared Life with… Yes, a significant other, then ironically there 's others on this site, SG friends who are have a spouse/partner and they are so miserable, and in despair in their relationships… Infidelity, Emotional, and Physical Abuse etc. Yes, any good relationship takes work, but in the meanwhile, when we are singled could we worked on the relationship, we have with with ourselves? Yes, making ourselves first priority," Yes, the top of our own priority list." Why are we always at the bottom of this list? If we don’t validated ourselves, who will validated us, if we won’t? @brandongoodguy When last you made yourself first priority? Be strong, the best is yet, to followed… SG friends are here, to supported, and be supported.
um ... sorry to differ here, but isn't everyone top priority for themselves by default? What brandongoodguy and nataliepearson are saying is that they (and I can identify so I will say "we") are not anybody else's priority. Doesn't mean we love other people more than we love ourselves, that is humanly impossible even though we think otherwise. The fact that we get hurt by rejection means that our self-love isn't being satisfied. If we didn't love ourselves, there'd e no expectation for returned ffcetion, and hence no sense of being rejected or unloved. And It's only human to look to others for acceptance, it's a way of validating oneself, which is why we are all on this site. I don't know how far making oneself one's priority works. Also, isn't that a very lonely way to live too? Just thinking aloud.
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@VirtualReality Yes, it is a priority by default in theory, but in reality I often neglected it, and I suppose a lot of us make the same mistake losing ourselves in rising children, taking care of our family, doing our best at job, helping everybody … but yourself. Now it is a payback time… But I cannot change past, I did what I thought was a right thing to do, all I can do now is to try to make myself a priority (but again, my kids come first). I know that in order to be there for anybody, even for my kids, I have to be ok with myself first, but parents often neglect themselves if they have to choose whom to take care of first. My kids are much older now so I can start making changes in my life in that sense-devoting more of my time, energy and care to myself.However, this is of course just my experience, someone might have a different one 