I'm not sure if my last post worked so let me try this again:
I'm a father of 2 children and I want to divorce my Narc wife. Without getting into all of the reasons, I will most likely need them to stay with their mom.
Has anyone had any experience with divorcing a Narc with kids in the middle?
I did, and many of us here have. Obviously I don't know your circumstances, but the thought of your kids having to be raised by a narcissist is horrible to me. I wish there were some way you could avoid this...but if you can't, at least stay as involved with them as you possibly can. Your wife, being a narc, won't give them any love and will undoubtedly abuse them. They need someone who cares for their well-being active in their lives.
I'm going to do my best to be part of their life but I'm in another state right now (initially a temporary situation for business reasons) and have to choose whether I go back to the home city and deal with her manipulation (she will use the kids) or stay where I am and try to rebuild my life. Tough choice. Very, very tough choice.
Mine is threatening to fight me tooth and nail. He doesn't really want them he wants to hurt me. Best of luck.