Im not sure if this group is for people who were adopted or if birth parents can post in here but im 16 and im 22 weeks pregnant with a baby girl that is going to be adopted by this wonderful couple. Im terrified but I also know it is whats best for her. I got to chose her name. Nahla fontanini. I also get pictures and updates every month and the adoptive family wants me to be there for birthdays and holidays. The couples been married for 8 years and they have a biological daughter whom is 5 and an adopted son whom is about 3 or 4. there super excited to welcome Nahla and me into their family. But for all the adopted kids in this support group i want you to know something. We didn't give you up. you were wanted! we just realized that our wants don't matter when it comes to whats best for you. We want you to have the BEST LIFE POSSIBLE and a loving family so we did. appreciate the families that you have. Adoptive parents are wonderful people. they chose to love when they didn't have too.
Hun, this is the most amazing and beautiful post, you are giving this family such a gift! You are being the best mom you can be to her, allowing her to go to a family that can give her things that you can't, so immensely proud of you!
My husband and I have been waiting for a year to be chosen, and have so much respect and admiration for women like you who love their baby so much that you would choose life for your child, and look for a family that will give him/her the life that you wish you could. You are a hero to your child! That is what I will tell our someday baby...their mom loved them completely and wanted the best for them! You are beyond amazing. God bless you always.
I am also the birthparent of a child that was put up for adoption. So glad you posted. I really struggle with it. He will be 5 on June 9th. There are some things out there for birthmoms to get help but I cant find ANYTHING for birthdads. I guess people don't think that the birthdads care. I know we did what was best for him but it still hurts. I know how brave you are. You are an amazing young lady.