im not sure when it started but the youngest age i remember it from was 6, id have sleepovers at my nanas house every day since my aunties and uncles who lived their were my age, i never really realized how wrong it was until i was around 11 but my grandad would r@pe me every time i stayed there so like every day for 6 years, he wld tell 8year old me that id go to jail if i told anyone bc me and him were both in the wrong, i spoke up ab this years ago but i cant help but to feel guilty, i ruined his life even tho he ruined mine first
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don't ever. ever feel guilt about this. this is his fault. you asked for nothing. he pushed it on you. im so sorry you went through this. i really am. im glad your here and your able to talk about it. it's better to talk then keep it inside. i hope you are ok today.
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If his life is ruined then that is his fault 100% he was the adult that committed a crime on a child. I understand how that can affect you and cause you to feel guilt because for one you were just a child and he made you feel part responsible so that wasn't your fault. Practice self talk, when you think or feel guilt tell yourself no, it wasn't my fault he had no right to hurt me and abuse me I couldn't protect myself I was a child. Remind yourself that you did the right thing by speaking about it. Did he go to prison for it?
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@Fohb460 yes he went prison for 5 years n i think its less on good behaviour, i dont feel bad for getting him sent to prison but for taking him away from his family ruining his marriage ect