I'm trying to recover from the things going on in my house I am constantly critisized for everything , everything my brother i do is questioned. We're constantly put down. My grandparents are used as refuge when we need it but they wont intervene,because they don't want to make things bad in the fam. I have severe anxiety problems especaily when it comes to being separated from people I feel safe with please help me ! Abby
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Hi Abby,
It sounds like you are still fairly young and I can see that you are going through a lot. Do you feel like your parents put too much pressure on you to excel? Why do you feel that you are criticized all the time? I know that when I was a teen I felt like my mother asked way too much of me and I just could not meet her expectations. Have you ever considered talking to your parents about how they make you feel? We're here for you, hang in there.
Hugs,
K.G.
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Hi Abby, it's good you're speaking with someone............you mention a brother, is he younger? Just trying to get an idea of what age you are .........you reaching out like you have shows your maturity.Some parents , 'parent' how they were treated or have difficulty seeing how 'easy' you have it.....who knows..............you are on the right track working through it. You're smart enough to DO something. Sorry it's causing the feeling of escaping. Could we hear your ages to understand better? No matter WHAT your age, you shouldn't have to feel this. Hope to keep chatting.
I can relate abbylove20. I was never good enough either, and couldn't live up to what ever standards that my parents had. It took me some time to separate those negative recordings in my head and start believing in myself. Now looking back, that was their way of refusing to be emotional involved in my life, but acting that I wasn't good enough. I feel one family member was made to feel the same way growing up and that is the way he treated me. Surprisingly, parents often treat their kids in the same disfunctional pattern that they were raised. So I am asking you even as a teenager, to step outside of this and see it isn't you but more the people around you may be disfunctional and you are just on the receiving end of it. I know that doesn't make it better or make it right, I am just hoping you stop blaming yourself for treatment that isn't right.
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