Hello! I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years now, and I am only 20. Recently I have been feeling that I am not even attracted to him at all, and I am not sure that I have ever been. When he originally asked me out, I said no, but later I said yes because I did not want to lose his friendship (we were very close friends). These feelings have been around for about 2 months, and I am not sure whether it is because I am depressed again or what. I also find myself attracted to stronger, tougher men who are older and considered "bad boys." I have done this before when I am depressed. I broke up with my boyfriend for 6 hours because I wanted to see what it was like to be with another guy, but I never got around to being with another guy and I got scared and lonely. Half of the time, I feel like I can't live like this forever in this relationship and I need to get out there and live. The other half of the time, I feel like this is probably where I am supposed to be in life and my relationship with my boyfriend is right and it will be ok. Anyone with any advice?
Hi M.A.E., Welcome to SupportGroups.com . From reading your post, if you are not truly happy with being with your boyfriend, then why do you remain? You are cheating both of you out of a life you could possibly have by remaining in this relationship. Are you afraid to be on your own? Keep posting. We are here for you. ((((hugs))))
Yes, I am afraid to be alone! I have not been alone since I was sixteen and I don't know how to be alone as a 20-year-old. I feel that I cannot live without my boyfriend since he is my best friend, and since I have been away at college, he is really all I've got. I feel like I should not be making any big decisions about this right now, but I can't help but want to.
hi i feel the same way i am going through the same thing and we are around the same age. but for me i found a specific guy who i have fallen for who is more like me. i feel terrible because my bf is my life and we have been away at college together. i actually said no to my boyfirend at first when he asked me out but then i said yes i didn't want to be alone. and then we hit it off.
i wish i could give you advice but i would say don't jump the gun just yet. maybe write down everything you like about the person you are with now and everything you don't like sometimes its not all about appearance eventhough it is important you need to be attracted to someone to have a relationship. sometimes the grass looks greener on the other side sometimes you know your not happy and you need to get out. you need to decide that for yourself. also decide if you know if this person will always be there for you that is a factor.
my problem is i know my guy will be with me forever he accepts me for who i am but i can't seem to accept him for who he is. and i feel shallow.
ultimately you need to make decision for yourself its natural to feel this way we both have been in long relationships and we are young it depends what you decide to do with these feelings.
hopefully this helps :)