Is anybody else who is in early recovery OBSESSED with finding out about information about theses people. Im also so inclined to look at other peoples relationships and diagnose . . What the heck do I think I am ,, some kind of superhero or something , rescuing the world . Im in trouble of losing friends if I do this , or people are going to think Im a nutcase . . ( which frankly I already know ) . Any ideas ?
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I think it's an important part of the healing process to inform yourself about why this person behaved the way they did. I know learning about it has really helped me.
Im a walking psychologist thinking , breaking them down their behaviour , dynanics and labelling peiple all over the darn place !!! . . I so want to tell his ex wife . . And help!! Its frustrating me
I agree with YR. It's not your place to psychoanalyze others' relationships or to making psychiatric diagnoses for people you don't know, especially when you're not a medical clinician. From the tone of your post and comment I'm wondering if there is an OCD aspect to this? It sounds almost compulsory. Telling people they are with a narc when they don't realize it doesn't work anyway. Narcissists are very good at gaslighting and discrediting their critics to the person they're with (i.e. "That person has always had a vendetta against me. They're crazy. Don't listen to them.")
Emmaboharris, I have been reading everything I can get my hands on about narcissism. I need to keep reminding myself constantly "what" I was in a relationship with. It wasn't a man in love with me, it was a monster who wanted to hurt me and manipulate me with lies and hurtful strategies. It was all premeditated and calculated. It's full intention was to try to ruin my life. When I thinks of him as a man who loved me I am being delusional. That is why I go to this site to get support and I constantly do my "homework" reading my narcissist information. Keep strong! We're are all here for YOU.
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I think it makes sense to research as much as we can about our narcs since we will never get rational explanations from them, so we look for answers elsewhere. I also think it makes sense to have our narc radar on so we don't get hurt again. As for others, I would leave it alone and focus on yourself now, on your healing and gaining strength again. All the best!
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I understand the urge to share the knowledge, Emma, but people won't appreciate it. Just keep the info in your head for the inevitable time that someone close to you needs it.
Ok !!!
Week 5 out of relariinship . Week 4 no contact . God ive researched , onsessed and cryed more than ever before in my life . . Its not down to him . I was his addiction n i was his !
Its my bloody c.d brain!!
Im trying !!!!
@emmaboharris my spelling on phone and manic mood rubbish . .
Sorry !!