Is anyone in a relationship that they partner is soo clingy/smothering 24/7. That it's soo draining to a point to even want to be around them. I can't even go to my cousin's house without my boyfriend tagging alot. Then he always has to be in the conversation or sit there n listen.. I can't even have friends bc he thinks everyone wants to get with me. Sometimes I try to hide in the bathroom just to get some space, he will knock on the door constantly ,. Or say he needs to use it. He says bc he loves me so much but I think it's more of a control thing.
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It sounds more like he's very insecure. It would be helpful if he acknowledged that and start focusing on doing things to build his self esteem and that can be a very hard thing to do especially if you don't know where to begin. So first he would need to start educating himself on what things he can do to build self esteem. Maybe start having small conversations with him about it. Ask him if he thinks he has low self esteem and if he would be willing to learn about it and start doing things to build himself up. It starts with him, not him following you around. He needs to start exploring things that he enjoys doing.
All of us can do things in relationships that are annoying but if someone's willing to work on changing things and keeps showing improvement then that's what really matters.
Maybe you're at your breaking point but if not and you think you could give him a chance then give it a shot.
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Tell him that you love him, but he is smothering you. That you need time apart. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
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@CKBlossom yes I told him that then he accuse me of cheating
Yes, he just started working at my job 2 days ago. And tonight he accuse me of cheating again even though we together all day. And wants me to give him attention 24/7.
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I feel trap
@Blueheart23 He sounds very clingy and controlling, that’s not good at all. Also, him working at the same place you do seems kind of stalkerish. It’s like he never wants to be apart from you.