Is been very hard tonight. I have loved my wife every second of every day. I miss her so much. She lives with me still but she's gone. I'm not sure I can handle this honestly.
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You can! Stay strong and one day you will look back and wonder how you did it. But you can do it. Don't let her or her choices ruin you! It is your life, take it back! Even if you do it one moment at a time!
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There's more than 1 fish in the sea, however.. you cannot find a perfect fish, you can create it...
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@krisjd12, I love that. I definitely didn't find the prefect fish, but he's getting there. :)
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Glad to hear it @calibrit
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@angry.lost My wife moved to the coast 7 months ago 1 month ago she calls my youngest son 22 and tells him that she loves me but not in love. I always thought you don't hurt the people that you love.I hate that phrase.
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@mack556 HaHa! I am in the same boat! My divorce is final next week and I get this email from my stbx saying that he is looking to have “more fun family times together in the future”. Oh really? This has been going on for months and I finally realized that he was just alleviating his guilt. Nothing more. Why won’t these people leave us alone and let us get on with our lives?
I'm in a similar position. After 10 years my wife told me one night out if the blue that it isn't working for her anymore and wants to separate, but she doesn't want to move out or have me move as she "can't cope" without my income. I feel like I'm just being used for the money at the moment but I keep holding on in the hope that she will tell me she made a mistake because I still love her more than anything. The most painful thing is that she still wants to act like were together for our kids as she doesn't want them to know what's going on and blame her but the minute they go to bed it's like i don't exist anymore and she buries herself in her phone arranging her new life that I'm not a part of and she gets frustrated if I distract her or try to talk to her. I don't have anyone to speak to as I've never really had friend's, and my family blame me for our situation as I clearly can't have been a good enough husband. Sorry if it sounds like I'm feeling sorry for myself but I needed to get that out
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@8tinman8 I am truly sorry for your situation It does sound like she is using the situation for her and does not consider or care about your feelings. My wife and I have been married for 25 years have 5 children and 6 grandchildren. It is **** near impossible to concentrate or even function at times. It was always amazing to me how much you think you know somebody and it turns out you don't when this happens. Your in limbo, hang in there your not alone.
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@teedupin You know I think Email works well but it is like so many of the impersonal contact messaging. It makes it so easy to hurt other people because they don' have to look you in the eyes it is a cowards way out of a guilty conscience for what they have done to the people that they said they loved.
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@mack556 Yep, you know it. I just want to tell him to leave me alone, but I am not going to just yet. I think the kindness and silence treatment tends to go a long way. What I really want to say is “you are a liar and a cheater”, but I wont. Because that would make me feel worse. I think that there is some truth to “kill him with kindness”
I'm sorry yesterday was hard for me. My boyfriend cheated on me and had s child with the woman he is going through a mental health crisis and he is living with me after being in treatment for 5 months he says he is a changed man but how do you know when he has lied about everything the affair, the online dating sites always looking for someone better. What do I do I'm losing my mind so unhappy I just want love and peace
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@Baltimorelisa You are not married to the guy. Run, don’t walk and get out of there! It is not going to get better, only worse. And now he has a kid to support. You want that responsibility too? Start running and do it today. Be strong. You will be glad you did.
I hear you honestly but I feel like he is really trying is it really impossible to change
Why would you want to stay with someone that cheats? That makes no sense and even tho I don't really know you, you deserve better. START TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF TODAY!
How? I don't want to be alone it's pathetic I know!
Baltimorelisa, I think it would be better to be alone than to live a lie, where the other is cheating and there is no trust, only lies. It's not healthy for anyone to live that way. We all need healthy boundaries. Respect yourself! Look at it this way.....how can you find someone who will treat you well, if you are so focused on this one that is cheating on you? It can really wear you out. I have been there myself. Do not allow another to disrespect you. They will come to expect that cheating is ok, because you are allowing that behavior. Believe me when I say, you may "feel' alone right now, but that doesn't mean you will always be alone!! There are good ones out there! Hugs!
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@fishing123 I agree. The thought if always wondering if he is cheating. …not my life style. I won’t do it. If I even think he is a cheater again, the idea of being on my own not worried about what he is doing seems refreshing.