Is ending our relationship a bad idea?

My story:

I was with my boyfriend for three years and we were having a hard time so I decided to run into the arms of another man. Biggest mistake I've ever made. This man has been so amazing to me for 9 months. Never treated me badly, and always treated me like a princess, but I just cant be with him anymore. He knew before we got together that I was still in love with my ex boyfriend, and 9 months later, I am still in love with him. It was a mistake of me to jump into his arms, but I was scared of being alone. I told my recent ex that I want a break, but didn't really mention us breaking up. He moved to my state to be with me, he goes to the same university as me, and works two jobs because he wanted to be able to collect enough money and get a promotion soon. He did all this for us, and I hate breaking up with him because he's done so much, but if I continue with this relationship it will be unfair to him. He deserves someone better. I just want to be alone. I am to the point where I rather be alone than with anyone else, and if the man that I am madly in love with ever decides to forgive me, I will be with him in a heart beat.

Please tell me if this break up is wrong, if I am wrong?
I just cant hurt him any longer. His dad just had a stroke and his family is in financial crises...He says I am his only sanity, and by breaking up with him I think I might ruin his life. I don't know what to do. I just want to be alone, but I don't want to hurt him either.

Please help.

Dear Anonymous, Wow that is a tough spot to be in. I would think it's never wise to continue a relationship once you know you don't feel the same. What makes it worse is his current situation and I hope you take that into consideration when you choose the time to cut the ties. I know you care for him and can best judge when he can handle the news. I'm afraid there is never a good time for a breakup, but it looks like something you need to do. You will be in my prayers that everything works out for you. Many Virtual Hugs, Raylene