In looking back at my relationships, I find that sex is much more satisfying when there is drama in the relationship. In relationships that were more stable emotionally, the sex was not as good.
I am wondering if this is normal. If it's not normal, any reason why I might feel this way?
Have a good weekend, everybody.
MB
I actually agree with you that sex is often better when there is drama in a relationship. I think when a relationship is going from ups/downs-emotions can be all over the board-so basically when it is hot it is hot. However in a stable relationship, emotions are often leveled & things can become routine & predictable. However, in a stable relationship-you can actively try to spice things up to prevent that from happening.
I know in my own relationship-when things are crazy w. my husband the sex can be great bc it is usually make up sex & full of passion/ occur at any time or in different places (these might be time times when we have sex in kitchen or basement instead of bedroom). But when we are getting along & everything is peachy--our daily routine become mundane & uneventful=and often the sex is not as hot (in my case it would be predictable sex after the kids go to bed but not too late so he can watch the news/sports & I can go online lol).
I would love to get to the point of having a stable relationship with out lossing the passion. I think it just requires working harder to keep it hot-which I am personally trying so we will see how it goes.