It's been almost a month since I found out about my husband's affair, I have my good days and my bad days.. If I am busy I don't have time to think about it.. My question is when your spouse cheats and when y'all decide to have sex again does anyone feel they can't finish the deed because they start crying because all you can think about is your spouse with the person they cheated on you with?
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This is very common. How is everything else going? Please take extra good care of yourself. Sending you strength, hope, ((hugs)) God's peace
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Very common and a normal part of having to heal from betrayal. So sorry for your pain. Wishing you comfort.
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Very common although I will say the next day after I found out we did have sex. I wanted to remind him about us. I completely imagined him with someone else the entire time. Especially because he told me it was horrible and very quick with her and how let's say 6 out of 10 he couldn't get aroused from her so they would just stop trying. I wanted to show him that I did it for him with just a touch or kiss. Then afterwards (sex) I balled my eyes out, I hated him. I couldn't look at him. I couldn't stop picturing him and someone else. It's hard...
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I have times where I dint care what he did. Then times when I cried, and now in an at a point where I am finding hard to be close to him again. It sucks. .. a lot life before the affair. And a big reason why he found a girl friend in the first place.
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@Teeny bikini everything else is going good so far. He is doing everything he can to try and help me.. But its still hard to deal with. Like today he was a little upset because he said he wants to be my best friend that I can talk to all night and joke around with... I told him he had that and pushed it all away when he decided to have an affair for 10 months...
@zhillscple you need a lot more time to start being comfortable. Things as stupid as singing to the radio in the car took a while. Just didn’t feel good to be relaxed, comfortable or happy enough to joke or whatever. But when you do feel like joking around, do it. It week make you feel better to almost sum normal for a minute. 
I feel the same way but he doesn't get it I guess.. And I do have times where things feel normal and then feelings arise and get me down again.
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@zhillscple me too, ups and downs are a big part of it for a while.
Depends my x and I still had sex often almost daily she still had great orgasms but as she said a relationship can't be based on just that it didn't bother her I had sex with her friend it bothered her I didn't ask her directly even though she had offered me to her friend before