its been almost four months since we separated and i should be divorced no later than march and i still have not hit the acceptance stage. i am still so sad about it. it was a very abusive marriage and i should be happy im safe and free of abuse but i still miss him. :(
The way I look at it, a divorce is like a death. Say you have a loved one with a terminal illness and the best thing in the world would be for them to be free from their pain and suffering. You know you will miss them but you can't even begin to heal until they pass. Once your divorce is final it closes that chapter and then the real healing can begin. I guess that's why people say it's best to wait sometimes a year or two before you start dating again. Everyone is different. I quit smoking 30 years ago and sometimes still have a craving. I don't give into it, I know it's bad for me, and the craving passes. Trying to stop the abuse cycle is incredibly difficult to do. Best wishes! He doesn't deserve you and you don't deserve to be abused. Stay strong!!