I've been in an abusive marriage for years with a wife that I suspect has BPD. It's never been diagnosed, but so many of the symptoms match what I deal with on a daily basis. We're now separating (after I caught her having an online affair) and I'm feeling extremely lonely and confused. She still has her online relationship for love and support. Part of me is glad that she has that, I guess. I don't want her to be unhappy. I want her to be well, and I thought I could help make that happen. Now I struggle to make it through each part of the day. I still live with the woman I love, but we're no longer sharing our lives with each other and it hurts more than anything.
hi,you cant hate her. but you can be friends with her. stay strong. we are there for you