I've had genital herpes for 2 years now. Haven't dated anyone since my ex cheated and gave it to me.
I have a date tonight...what is the etiquette?? Should I tell him right away? If he kisses me will he get it? Will he be mad to find out I have it? Help...should I just cancel the date?
Dont cancel. Dont disclose. Just be yourself, have fun, and see if you even like him first. :-)
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Thank you! I just feel bad...just talking to him he sounds confident enough to go for a kiss and I don't know what to do!
if you only have genital herpes, you cannot transmit it through kissing.
have fun!
Thank you! Is it unethical not to tell the person though? I'm trying to put myself in their situation (had I not gotten herpes how would I feel about finding out I kissed someone who had it and didn't tell me...regardless of only being able to transfer it through sex...maybe it would be ok as long as they got educated later that you can't get it from kissing?)
It all depends on the person. since being diagnosed, I've made out with lots of guys and haven't disclosed because I only have it genitally.
The only circumstance where I will disclose, is if I'm going to have sex with the guy (which I'm not...because I'm not a casual sleeper) or if im going to be in a relationship with the guy.
I've only been intimate with 1 guy...and bam, I have Herpes. Like, wtf.
But, you are your own person. All of the guys I've made out with, it led to absolutely nothing. Because all they want is sex, and that's not what I want so I'm not going to give it to them.
IMO, I'd wait to disclose, to see what he's like, if you guys have chemistry and click. Don't run him off right away. But that's just me.
But nah, definitely cannot get through kissing.
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@allwillbfine I like your reply thank you. I’ve met a guy that I am attracted to and we have chemistry. We’ve been on 3 dates and one coming up this saturday. I plan on holding out for a while. I started up my acyclovir just in case. I normally don’t take it. I only take if suppression is necessary (like sexually active) or if an OB occurs, which I have not received one in 1 1/2 yr.
There is a way to stop outbreaks and not pass it along. pronovex supplement does that. but i'd still disclose anyway. I know it's hard. but it's honest. and no way you can get genital herpes from kissing only kissing no
@allwillbefine I'm sorry. It's horrible to have gotten it.
I don't usually take acyclovir unless I think I'm getting an OB. I didn't know there was medicine to make you not have OB or pass it@ alt-7...I thought you could pass it even without a shedding sore? And that I'm doomed.
Is hand stuff ok? As long as you wash up after?
Genital herpes isn't transmitted thru saliva (kissing). If you have specific transmission questions, and you're just not sure as to what is real online, go ask your gynocologist. They will be the MOST reliable source of information there is.
There is NO cure. There are stupid websites that say there is, but, there isn't.
There is suppressive therapy, which works for some, and not others. I've had it since 2001. I know MY symptoms, triggers, and length times. I take an herbal supplement (Lysine or Austragalus) to help keep my tissues healthy. I avoid triggers as much as possible, which is mostly stress.
Yeah there are sites that claim there is a cure that is so false. It is really upsetting that they mislead and lie to us that are desperate No cure at all. the supplement I talked about did stop the outbreaks and my pain too. it is not a cure though. Austragalus is very good i've heard also. now not even stress affects me