How could I (or anyone for that matter) have ever known that Life could become so soul crushingly lonely?You live your Life,the best that you can,doing the right thing, being a good person.You make sacrifices,you never think of recompense it’s just always that thought in your head “Well, this is the right things to do so…”.I suppose I am naive or foolish,maybe I expect too much?I can not understand why no one seems to have time to talk,not text with abbreviations but talk?Why bother to ask me how I am if you are not even going to listen for my answer before you hustle me off the phone?I think we as Human beings have become diminished by the non connectivity the internet affords us.Oh yes the internet is wonderful for many many things and so very useful but,it has allowed us to vanish from actual physical activities all too often.I know there are still many people who meet up and go and do things but what about those of us who can only handle meeting 2 people at a time or better yet 1?Just because I am lonely doesn’t mean I want to hit the clubs or go on a cruise.I want a friend or 2 just to go for a walk with or chat about a book we are reading or sit and listen to some music,any music,or cook some good food together and discuss what we have done in our lives,what worked,what didn’t?I want a friend who would not judge me for my mistakes,my shortcomings,someone who would help me formulate a plan to do better and feel good about myself and I would be happy to do the exact same thing for them.I want a friend who would validate me and tell me “No you are not crazy,people should not be road raging or screaming at each other in the store”.I want a friend that would not cultivate an online friendship with me and spend time getting to know me only to vanish and never explain why?Do people who Ghost others have any idea how painful that experience is?I want a friend who doesn’t mind a quiet house/room/space,perhaps no music no TV just hanging out chatting or not,just getting away from stress and the constant high gear of survival mode that you seem to slip into when you are alone for so long and feeling exhausted just trying to motivate yourself to slog through another day.I know there is still Good in the World and that it is not bleak or dark but I do feel strongly that way too many of us are so lonely it will make us ill.
Find what makes things work for you and please try to be patient. I’m trying hard on that one. The Boomers say life gets better. I hope it does.
I have to totally agree . Nobody talks anymore . It takes a couple of minutes while you have the phone in your hand to text to see how someone is doing but that seems to hard to do for a lot of people . I seem someone been made fun of by 2 men in a group which was connected to mental health recently . People go out of your life for various reasons sometimes faster than the come in
Thank you for your comment.Im trying to be patient but the days are so long and drawn out and silent.I have quite a few hobbies and a great love of music so Im not just sitting in my house idle and I hope life does get better.I find it difficult at times to cultivate much optimism
Thank you for your comment!Yes!! That’s what sometimes really gets me I mean how long does it take to text someone?10 seconds 20 seconds if you write a couple lines?I really can not stand people who ridicule others who may be going through some hard problems,and to ridicule somebody online is simply unconscionable.To hide behind the anonymity of your screen and purposefully hurt someone is a cowardly act.I don’t mind people going out of my life so much but I suppose the meanness of ghosting the failure to provide any type of closure,that’s what bothers me.That kind of abrupt departure leaves a person wondering why? forever…I have been able to realize though that anything anyone says or does to me is not about me or a reflection of what kind of person I am,it is all about what they are going through.Once I began to really understand and accept this I could move on but I will admit at times I still need to grumble about it!