I went on Friday for a retrieval and found there were no eggs there. This was my last chance at conceiving a child who is biologically mine. My story for the past week is in a blog I just started writing http://thatonebasket.wordpress.com, but I'm posting here to talk to other women who are in this boat. My head is spinning. How did all of you cope with this news? If you're interested in more details, I'd love to have you visit the blog. But I'd most like to hear what helped for you.
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thatone, oh i am so sorry to hear your news was not as you had hoped for. i won't say it is bad news, just unexpected. i have not been able to biologically have children too and had a hysterectomy when i was 31.
it was a very trying time for me i don't think i ever wept so much in my entire life. i wept for year about it until i decided to change my perspective of things.
i have always had children in my life despite them not being my own.
i sponsored a little girl in bolivia for years. i was a foster mom for a few years. i used to do arts and crafts for the neighborhood kids at my house every other weekend and throw them a christmas party every year. i used to always have my friends kids come over and take them out for a special treat, icecream, a movie, shopping at the dollar-store, the park, etc. my want for children was filled with substitue sons and daughters.
right now i have a niece due via c-section next week. my sister (in-law) has been kind enough to really include me in much of her pregnancy. we have gone shopping together, got the room ready for the baby together, i have gone to her dr. appts with her and it has been amazing!
she has given me a gift no one else can ever give me.
my point is, just because things did not work out as you had hoped, doesn't mean they are not working out as they were meant to be.