Just joined the group. Married for three years. Wife started cheating before our first wedding anniversary. Found out about it last year. Constant fighting and now going through a divorce. Depressing how I could be so wrong about someone.
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It's not your fault you saw the best in her.
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Thanks. I know. Its just difficult feeling like something else could be done. But the marriage was toxic.
@jmh2015 I’m sorry.
@Consumed39...Thank you. Its appreciated. The hardest part is moving on. I made her my life. I am in a job I dont necessary like, in a city I moved to for her, and trying to make new friends now. But at 37 it is not easy.
@jmh2015 Well you’ve been through the hardest part. Now you have a new beginning and hopefully you can make the best of it.
@Consumed39...What is your story. If you dont mind me asking.
@jmh2015 It’s kind of long. If you click on my name you can see all my posts.
Wow some people. What has this world come to. I'm sorry
I apoloaize if I have offended anyone. Sorry new to this.
@jmh2015 Not at all.
@ Consumed39....My situation was that after I found out. She wouldn't stop. I guess I didnt make it easy for either.
@jmh2015 I’m sorry that she wouldn’t stop.
@ Consumed39... I am sorry that you are going through this in your first year....that you are going through this at all. Have you tried marriage counseling?
@jmh2015 No I’ve been married for almost 13 years. We’ve done counceling. We are in a better place in our relationship. I’m just struggling to put the last behind me.
@ Consumed39...she said she didnt have time for it.
I walked away from my ex .... the reason, she had this old dude who had a house and cars and I don't have either of those things yet, so it was easy to let her go knowing her and her kids will be fine but with a sense of satisfaction of knowing she will be utterly miserable with him. It wasn't easy leaving the kids because they really loved me but to think of all those times she lied to me and how she used me.... I couldn't bring myself to see her again.
I understand being used. I feel the same way.
Sorry for this happening to you. People change for some reason or another after those magic words "I do" they seem to think wedding vows don't apply to them. It sucks what has happened to you and I wish you good luck in your future. At least you didn't find out 15 years later and with a child.