Just read a long long post on here, and I need to say (in my opinion) men are treaten badly and women too. I can't really understand how women can even think that men are always those strong, protecting humans without feelings, but I also don't get how men can say that women are always those who are thinking that. Maybe I'm totally wrong but to me it looks like those who have had problems with the opposite gender in the past, are most likely like that. For example cheating, abuse (physical & emotional) etc etc. I can totally understand that, and I'm not saying it's bad that they think like that. It's a long process to learn to trust again, especially if you've had bad experience in the past. But I'm praying for you all that you will be able to trust again one day. Because you deserve it, and you will be really happy with someone someday, I know that. Emotional abuse in a relationship destroys trust, I've learned that too, but if someone needs any help or advice or support, I'd like to help.
(But I guess you need to know that I might be not a good help, I'm not over all this stuff that has happened. But I want to help you so I'll try my best)
I know where u are coming from. my ex husband did all the abuse texts on me that there is. I was abused badley for five months in 08. I been helping people too that I can so they don't go through the same thing that I did. keep up the good work.
it would be nice if this crazy world that we live in was nice as heaven. take all the bad things in it and throw it all into the ocean for the fish to eat up. we all need to do the best we can in our lives and cope and deal with the issues we have in our daily lives. we all need to be thankful that we are alive and well and that we do have family and friends that do love us and care for us no matter what. none of us asked for the hurtness to be put on to us or the shame of things that we have to deal with in our daily lives. but all I know there is only one person that trurly cares and loves us no matter what we do in our lives and that is the power of the higher up.
Imo, it's not about men/women. It's about the abuser/narc/EmM mentality regardless of gender. Most of us are struggling just like you, that makes us understand each other better and be able to support. Don't worry about expectations, I believe I speak for everyone here that the only expectation is to end any and all abuse.