Last Year

Mental Health Mental & Physical Abuse
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This issue is what I hid for about two months: I allowed my personal trainer to molest me on and off for about five months. Only happened in sessions but he only got grabby until the second set began and I was too scared too talk, to this day I should've never let him get away with it. But I never said a word out of fear and shame, until last year but the trust with older men ended there.

2

I'm so sorry to hear about what you went through. I know what it's like to be taken advantage of by and older man. I know how much it hurts feeling like "he got away with it". I'm here for you.

3

I mean to this current moment I still have a chance for him not to get away with it, But am debating on doing something about it.

4

Oh, you do what's good for you and no one else on this. I am praying for you.

5

I feel I should turn him in, its not too late and even still, if I Iose at least I'll know I tried.

6

Me too, and I'm pretty sure that if this happens to someone else, if they press charges this will be on his record as a red flag even if you do lose.

7

Thanks for the encouragement. I just need to see with my therapist, been since last summer since it ended, recent, I can do this.

8

Try to understand that what happened was NOT YOUR FAULT! It is very easy to "internalize" what happens to us because we ALL feel as though we should have known better than to let these things happen to us. We put our faith and trust in people because as children, that's what we are taught and at some point, we become niave and when something happens,out of fear and shame, we not only don't say anything to anybody, but we blame ourselves and it can be a very destructive way to be because it ruins your entire life.

9

Yeah, thats why I'm doing something about it, ruined my mind for two months, and I want justice even if it fails.

10

And random sidenote related to this. When I was 12 a stranger in a black car tried to get me in his car, said he'd give me a ride home. I escaped the terrible fate of being lost forever, but come age 17, I meet a molester...not fun.

11

I am so sorry to hear that, I can only imagine how terrifying that must have been.

12

Haha, I ran out of danger the back into it. Uhhhh, not fair.

13

Hmhm, two friends of mine got justice for their own experiences. I will know what it is to go to a police station in a few days.