Let Yourself be Uncomfortable

"It seems as though everything you do for fun terrifies you, my friend Andy said to me one day. "What's that about?"
I thought about his question. It was true. Flying scared me. Jumping out of that airplane for the first time was a terrifying prospect. I wasn't comfortable at all. I started hyperventilating and thought I was having a heart attack, at first.
The first day I decided to be sober and clean and not use alcohol and drugs anymore, I was faced with changing my entire life. The prospect of starting this new life scared me to death.
The day my divorce from the children's father was finalized, I was exhilarated for one moment, then I was terrified. I had an anxiety attack and called 911.
I was paralyzed with fear the first day I sat at my cubicle at the newspaper office staring at the blank screen while the deadline for the front-page story I'd been assigned was only two hours away.
"It's not that I'm an adrenaline junkie," I said to my friend. "At least the issue isn't entirely that. It's that everything new and worthwhile I've ever done on my path has required me to be uncomfortable and sometimes downright scared for a while. I've had to walk through a wall of fear."
I enjoy creating a comfortable place to live with downfilled sofas and beds that make me feel like I'm sleeping in the clouds. Learning to relax and learning to identify what makes us comfortable is an important part of learning to take good care of ourselves.
But sometimes we need to leave that nice, comfy, cozy place. (ohhhhhh nooooooooo!)
"I can't do this. I'm not comfortable," I'd say time and time again to my flight instructor Rob as he insisted that I take the controls of the plane.
"Yes, you can," he'd say, not feeding into my fear. "Just breathe. And relax.
Sometimes fear is a good thing. It warns us of real dangers and imminent threats. It tells us "don't do that or "stay away."
Sometimes afraid and uncomfortable is just how we're feeling because we're learning something new. Relax. Breathe deeply. DO it - whatever it is - anyway. You're supposed to feel that way.
Is your fear based on an intuitive feeling of self-protection or something new and unknown? If our fear isn't based on a legitimate intuitive threat, then get comfortable feeling uncomfortable.
Walk through your wall of fear.
Do the thing that scares you. Grow. Then check your fear and do it again!
---Melody Beattie

I love what the message is here..and I know from experience that it is TRUE!! Love to you all,

Jan ♥

Thanks for that, Jan! I agree; fear and discomfort can be very good things, but they're the dickens to get through at the time. It's that whole idea of sitting with the anxiety. At any rate, thanks for the post; good stuff to think over!

true...thanks! I agree..this is a major issue during recovery...thanks for reading! ♥

My internet connection was faulty earlier, and I lost my response... It was oh, so important, too! ;0) It read:


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Love you!


Jen...the answer I expected from you!! LOL Love you too!!

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Life is hard, without love and support from friends and family it becomes harder. For me it appears that my family cannot and will not love me ever. I am 62 so this is a fact. Meanwhile, I am left to worry and panic and move through life without that. Sometimes it is so overwhelming to me that the people that are supposed to care about do not care or love me because I am so worthless to them. This brings me to a place where all I can do well is to feed myself. And so I use food in place of love and I am so ashamed because of how I appear in my mirror that I don't go out and I don't exercise and I cannot help myself. I am not wealthy enough to afford to go to a treatment center for this problem, I have to live with results which alone I don't feel I can control.


i think this so applies to me now cause i am so uncomfortable with my natural normal weight now . it took me a year to find my REAL normal weight and now that i am trying to accept it---it is soo hard.. so i guess i should allow myself to be uncomfortable... i know i will be but --as pasty once said to us on here--I ACCEPT NON ACCPETACE. which means i accept the fact i do not like the way i look now in hopes of in the future liking myself ... so i kinda have to like--let it go--and that what i see in the mirror isnt what i am going to like to see---and just be done with it. as much as i try to accept what i look like in the mirror i cant. as much as i would like to... so this makes me uncomfortbale---being at my normal weight but i know it is needed for ME to thrive.

maybe one day with therapy i can one day love and accept what i see... but for now the mirror is no freind of mine...