Life is unfair.. I have two ****** jobs that give me no relevant experience and that barely allow me to pay my expenses. My flatmate, who has contacts, got a job with a member of her family where she will get more per hour with no experience and it is a role that will look incredible in her CV. Living in this city is bringing me down.... It is so tough to survive and I feel that I will always struggle. What is the point...
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Could you ask her to get you into the same co. as her?
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I wouldn't do that... I was raised in a way where receiving jobs via personal contacts is wrong and undeserved :( which makes me also see her in a different light and I find difficult to be happy for her.
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@Fer14 good for you! I appreciate your outlook. what’s your flatmate gonna do when all her CV counts for nothing in an actual job situation? contacts can only get you so far, and you are better off not utilising any contacts. hang on there, every bit of experience counts. you will not even realise when it will come in handy! hugs to you. xx
I wish I could offer more advice. I was raised in a place where the saying it's not what you know but who you know.
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Guys and Girls- there is nothing wrong with using contacts to get a job. I agree with Rewindit- knowing people is a lot more useful than experience. I know plenty of people who got their first job via contacts, then the experience from that job got them their dream job. Getting a job through a contact doesn't make it any less secure, if anything it's quite the opposite.
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How long have you been dealing with all of this?
Well I never had luck getting a job that payed me more than living wage.. Not sure if that answers your question blujonny. Watchandlose, thanks for your comment. You may be right and I know that in some cases it is alright to accept a bit of help but I would find difficult to do that. I guess that is probably partly why I am in this situation. Thank you all for listening and those who commented.
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What avenues are you using to look for a new job?
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u y telln me its not fair mums juts bean dignosz wth brest c luky thy cort it earkly but why her she not dun anthng bad
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I think its time to take a trip home to your family <3
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@Fer14 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YwpiZTp0N9k
Sometimes we need to see our struggles through the eyes of others who also have struggles - perhaps a million times bigger than that of our lives. It helps to see that the glass we hold is not really half empty, but half full. And through this new perspective, we are able to say we have everything within our power to try life at a new angle, with a new attitude, and new expectations of ourselves. If we expect from ourselves and not from society, we are stronger because we are the ones in control of the output - it is up to us if we want to place an ounce or a ton of of positivism on our table - and it is not dependent on what we want the world to give us. CHIN UP Fer14!
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@Fer14 I understand how you feel. You work your butt of and feel as though it is getting you no where. I've walked that path before. I know it isn't easy and sometimes you just want to throw in the towel and say "F-This! I deserve more and better" The best advice I can give you is to keep your chin up and keep working hard. I started out making $70 a week after taxes. I made that for a year. I literally would work so hard for that tiny amount of money that I would go home so sore and bruised. I wanted to quit so many times. But I stuck with it. Proved that I was worth more than $70 a week. It took a long 5 years but I finally managed to prove and push my way up the ladder. I hated it every day. But I stuck with it, even on the days that I was so hungry and couldnt afford enough to eat proper. Stay strong, eventually you will get there.
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@zombiepenguin Hurray for you! Not only has your experience made you a stronger & more well-rounded person, it also enables you to encourage others. thanks!
@Fer14 the point is so you can help someone who might be going through a similar struggle one day. Fair is a place you go to eat cotton candy, not a word used to describe life. It is tough. No two ways about it, it is a struggle. The conventional thinking might be "when I get out of this situation..." but the truth to life is maybe we never really get out of the struggle, and maybe it's all just struggle.
There is hope though. I'm not trying to get you down but to help you realize that it's ok to be not ok with your position in life. It can be used for good. We must develop attitudes where nothing can shake us out of our positivity for our own sake, because then and only then will our lives improve.
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@tim327 Right on!!!
that was so well said and even had a little kick to it. You are correct in telling our friend that life is not fair and attitude and outlook have so much to do with it. It's like weight loss; if you really, really want it, you will do it no matter the conditions and circumstances. It is the same with life. People have climbed out of worse places than where you are right now because they were determined and bold. Find what gives you strength (God, family, friends) and make it happen. Change your situation. Only you can do it. We are always here for you.
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I hope that you move through this situation smoothly. Having two jobs that you hate is awful. Is there any way to make it better? Are you looking for a different job doing something you like?
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@Fer14, don't despair. At times we may feel like we are worthless, but you have to keep in mind that it will not always be this way as long as you put some effort into it. I moved here when I was 14 from South America and had to learn to speak English. After I graduated high school, my immigration status did not qualify my for financial aid or the military. For many years I worked as a Janitor, delivered newspaper, worked at a shoe factory, and at a petstore. When I finally became a resident/US citizen at the age of 33, I finally qualified for financial aid. I stayed in my current job while I went to back to school, 2 years later I got my associates and got a job in my field of study. During 1 month while in school, my Grandma passed away, my Mom had open heart surgery and I got divorced, I still managed to get an A in my classes. Another 2 years later, I got a bachelors degree and also got a new much better job. It is not my intention to boast, only to show you that you can do anything as long as you set your mind to it. Don't fret because your friends have a better job, a name brand purse or new shoes. Concentrate on where you want to be 5 years from now and work hard to get there. I wish you the best and do hope that you are where you want to be soon!
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