I just want to start by saying hi to everyone. I'm new to support groups in general. usually a loner. A little about me, i'm 23, a mom, and work full time. I was diagnosed with BPD about 3 years ago. But things started way before then. I use to self mutilate. Haven't in a while. But it seems like lately my life has gotten out of control. I have problems staying faithful. I'm always thinking there is better out there. Grant it my bf does not help the situation. I find myself depressed and just seeking attention in all the wrong ways. I'm just looking for people to talk to and maybe advice on how to calm myself and help figure out what to do with my life. I'm too young to have this much stress.
Hi there! Welcome to Support Groups, thank you so much for being here and for sharing with us. I am sorry for what you are going through; have you ever seen a therapist? If not, would you consider seeing one.
There is always a way to start anew; this is a new year filled with so many wonderful opportunities, and it is what you make of it. I know that you can get through this and come out better and stronger on the other end of it.
Thank you. I've seen a few therapists. I make a little progress then plateau. But right now I don't have insurance and i'm a single mother. So finances are tight. My family doctor gives me my meds and they help, but I need counseling. My family is not much of a support. They kinda dance around talking about my BPD. And i've been at my wits end somedays.
I can relate. When you're young and broke, it makes the BPD that much worse. I, myself and 19 and on my own struggling with bills and a house. I give you a lot of credit raising a child though. My mom was my age when she had me and I could never imagine the stress of having a baby so young let along having a mental illness. So I must say I admire your strength and appreciate that you are still fighting through everything. Keep it up!
I personally have been working on self therapy with best of all is free. Reading books written especially for patients to rehabilitate themselves through their BPD have been helpful. Focusing energy onto something silly like a hobby or a goal helps to take the edge off some of the tough feelings.
I've had a messy relationship record too, and what helps me is recognizing that the other person doesn't want you for the good you, they want you for their own selfish reasons. They too are trying to hurt you as much as the BPD. You deserve better then them. You are not someone's side dish, you are the main event! Like thanksgiving dinner. You're not the green beans, getting passed around when every other side dish is gone, you're the TURKEY!!! In all your glory in the center of the table steamy and good! This image helped me fight the urge to cheat the last time it happened. You are some one's main dish, but not the person who treats you like the soggy green beans.
I hope something I said helped, or at least put a smile on your face. Hang in there, girl. You are doing great things.
Thanks Amandalynn. That did make me smile. I like to read and when I get down I escape to my books. My mom was young too when she had me. I try to just focus on my son. One of my stresses is my son's bio dad. He's signing his rights over when i get my tax check and get the papers drawn up. So that will help some. I'm in the process of getting rid of my bf. He accused me this morning of cheating. I'm so sick of him. And i've been talking to my friend in Virginia. She wants me to come live with her. I've been dieing to get out of indiana. But i'm trying to be patient and make sure i have everything planned out first. Maybe a change of scenery will do me good. What do you think?
Hello there! It seems that you have everything in the works and in place to be on such a positive path; having a bit of financial relief from the tax check, breaking-up with your boyfriend and an opportunity to move to Virginia. It's so smart that you are taking the time to make sure everything's in place first and then will move; it's all so very exciting.
Please know that we're here for you and to help you through the process in any way that we can.
well thank you. i try to plan everything. but i have my moments where i jump before i think. lol. Today seems to be a good day despite what i was accused of this morning. It makes me happy when i know i have somewhere i can write what's goin thru my head and people completely understand what it's like. Also my friend in Virginia is tryin to hook me up with her cousin. We talked all day yesterday and so far today. But we are gonna take things slow. We havea lot of things in common and he makes me laugh.
A big THANK YOU to everyone for listening to me and the advice. I know i'll keep posting on here and replying to other's posts.
You should check to see if NAMI has any support groups close to you. Also try Meetup.com and see if there are any support groups though that. It is really good that you are trying to get help at such a young age. I was 47 before I started to try to deal with things an the longer you wait, the harder it is to break old, bad habbits.
Doing things with a group or class would be better but you might look into a Dialectical Behavioral Therapy information online or in a bookstore. Even before I started classes I was helped by reading information online. The Diary Cards can really help you track how you are doing.
so as to make matters worse, sunday night my car motor locked up. it's now in the junk yard and i have no way to get another car. when do things get better?
How are you doing today and how are you feeling? I know that things seem a bit tougher now, but please know and have faith that they will get better and better slowly but surely. You are putting all of the pieces of the puzzle in place to get to that really great place.
Will the tax check possibly help you to get a new car or at least lease one? Is there a way to take public transportation to Virginia and can you share a car with your friend temporarily until you have the money to get a car?