Like a dream

I recently lost my husband of 15yrs, he passed away very quickly from stage 4 lung cancer. he was 41yrs old.We were told on May 11th 2012 that he had cancer we tried the chemo that didnt work, he passed away on August 1st 2012. It all still seems like a dream I miss him so much!

That is so tragic! My heart goes out to you. I can only imagine how u feel. I hope u have family n friends to help you through this terrible time. If not there r many people here on sp that care n r here to talk or just listen to how you r feeling. God bless my prayers r with you.

I am so sorry for your loss. I can relate somewhat because my Mama was diagnosed with lung cancer in Aug 2010 & died 7 weeks later. It was devastating. I hope you have a great support system. May God comfort you during this difficult time. Cancer sucks!

I'm so sorry for your loss. My sister's husband has lung cancer. He was diagnosed 2b last December. Even with 2b, the stats are grim. I am taking her for a pedicure in about an hour. We do it every 2 weeks, and it's how she vents and copes. It's the least I can do, and what I would want someone to do for me. I can't imagine the loss you are feeling since it was so recent. I hope you have a close friend or family member that you can lean on. I also hope your friends and family understand that you will need their support for a long time to come. My sister's husband is still alive, and I hope he will be for many years to come. It is such a tragic disease, and so often it isn't diagnosed until stage 4, like your husband. For what it's worth, you will find support on this site.

Very sorry to hear that. My mother has stage 4 lung cancer (age 56) and we were prepared for the worst. She is now on a clinical trial for anti-PD1 and her tumors have shrunk by 80%. I wish your husband could have been involved in a trial like this. Chemo did nothing for my mother and this trial has definitely saved her life.

My mom was supposed to get a hip replacement in Feb. 2010. When they did a chest xray cancer was discovered in her lungs. Instead of surgery she began chemo in April 2010. She lost her battle on October 15, 2012. My daughter and I were with her when she took her final breath. I always thought my husband would be by my side for support. I lost him to a massive heart attack on August 16, 2012.

I am so sorry for your loss. My Mama was diagnosed with lung cancer Aug. 2010 & died 7 weeks later on Oct. 15, 2010, 2 years prior to your Mom. My brother & I were with Mama when she died. She didn’t suffer since her battle was so brief but it is the hardest thing I have faced thus far in life. I can’t imagine you losing your husband and your Mom so close together. May God comfort you all during this difficult time.

My husband was diagnosised with stage 4b lung cancer June 2012. He had 3 different kinds of chemo but past away Dec 25, 2012. He kept telling me over and over this was going to be the best Christmas ever. My daughter was able to take him Christmas shopping the week before, he bought stocking stuffers for the grandkids, the first time ever. He also bought for me a heart shaped necklace with 3 diamonds. Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow. Last month would have been our 37th year anniversary.
I miss him so much, and it is getting harder and harder everyday. I knew in June that this was not a going to have a good ending but I thought I had myself prepared. Right now this moment I just hate life. I know that is so very wrong in every way. I count my blessings every day and pray for deeper strength. God does not give us more than we can handle.

Dawn: I'm very sorry for your loss. Although I can't relate to the loss of a spouse, my sister is going through her husband's relapse of lung cancer, and his odds are very poor. I am supporting them in this terrible time, and praying for a miracle, but also bracing for the worst. I'm sure you must miss your husband terribly. I hope each day gets a teeny bit better for you.

My husband also died of lung cancer (which had spread to his bones) in a very short time span - 10 wks in March 2012. The disease is an awful silent killer because often there are few symptoms. The loss is awful and yes life does seem meaningless. But slowly it will get a bit easier, a little at a time. I still have gut wrenching sobbing days, but not quite as often as I used to (at least not every day now)
I can only wish you all strength & future peace of mind. There are good people on this site who will comfort & support you. I hope your days grow lighter. Bless you all.

My Husband died of stage 4 lung cancer on 3-12-13. He lived for 2 months after we found out the diagnosis. He went very fast and all of this is new to me. I know that time helps heal. Take it one day at a time. Stay strong.

It is coming up on 2 years since my husband died of lung cancer, 3-16-2012. I have survived 2 of every holiday alone, and even am looking forward to making valentine treats for my friends. The first go round I felt like I had to prove to everyone (mainly to myself) that I was going to be fine. Second go round I just tried to have an alternate plan and try something new instead of reminiscing about what we used to do. However afterwards I feel such a let down and just get very tired and seclusive for a couple of weeks. It's like the crisis has passed and I am emotionally exhausted. When does this let up?

My thoughts and prayers are with you. I just lost my wife of 53 years to stage 4 lung cancer. The only thing I've heard that makes any sense is the phrase "one day at a time" Can't tell you if it ever gets easier. I guess that you learn to live with the wonderful memories and attempt to go on with your life. Bless you.