Linda c

How , as a parent of a drug user cope

are there any parents out there trying to deal with their adult child's addiction ?

Hey Linda go to ask an addict it is a great site with lots of people for support in your situation.....website addy is http://www.askanaddict.com

Thanks Amandavm, I will certainly check that out. Thanks so very much.

Linda

Your welcome :)

Hi linda c, You might also consider checking out Alanon - http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/ and/or Naranon http://www.nar-anon.org/ for help and support from others who are loved ones of alcoholics and addicts. You can find online meetings here http://www.stepchat.com/ . As a mom myself, I know how we worry over our children. We worry because we love them and want to protect them and help them anyway we can. Keep coming and letting us know how you are doing. We are here for you. ((((hugs))))

n/a, Thank you for the advice. I used to go to meetings like that and they did help. I see a therapist now who is helping deal with my feelings. I'm getting stronger but I do have some bad days. I realize that my son has to deal with his choices and that I can't help him if he doesn't want my help, which he doesn't. I just keep telling myself that things in my life could be a lot worse. Sometimes that helps for a little time anyway. My husband has some contact with him but I don't. He wants no part of me. I know that he does love me but is so angry with himself that the only way he can deal with it is to transfer the hatred of himself to me. Maybe some day I'll get the son I once had back. The kind, loving and caring son. Until then I just pray and ask G-d to watch over him and guide him to recovery. Thanks for your concern. It's such a help hearing from people who now how I feel. Take care and be well and happy. Linda

Hi Linda, We raise our children the best that we can and then when they are grown we let them go. I had some trouble with my middle daughter a while back. She distant herself from me and our relationship was very strained. But now we are growing close again. I say this to give you hope. It was hard on me when she was being distant but I tried to give her her space. Praying for our children is one thing we can do and keep the door open for when they wish to return. I will say a prayer for you and your son also. ((((hugs))))

I’m so happy for you and your daughter. I had the same experience with my daughter. Now we are very close. Hopefully all the prayers that you and so many other caring people are giving will help my son. It’s his and his twin brother’s 36th B’day today. I had my cry so now I need to move on. They say, who ever “they” are, that time heals all wounds. I think that time just eases the pain so that a person can continue their life as best as they can. The past is just that, the past. Tomorrow never comes,it’s always today. By the way. I love your cat. I’ve had Siamese cats and they are great pets.

hugs to you too,
Linda

Hello, I am new to this site. My son is a recovering Crack addict also abused perscription drugs. He has been clean since December 2010 after in patient treatment. He lost his job, his wife and his apartment. Looking for a new place to live and just started a new job. I want to trust him but I can't he has lied and stole so much very good at minipulating me. Most of his siblings have turned there back on him. I just need someone who has been through this to help me to trust and not be an enabler any longer. I love my son more then life itself I just don't like him does that make sense? Thanks so much for letting me vent.