Im feeling listless, useless now that my friend has gone. when i see her or when she visits, i have something to do and someone to talk to. i need more purpose in my life and something meaningful to do. i already have knitting and crochet work. i sell my stuff plus knit for charity which is meaningful. and we go out a few times a week. but i feel like a loser not having a work or a purpose, just moping around the house everyday while everyone else my age has a life.
I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way—it sounds like you’re going through a tough time, and it’s completely understandable that the absence of your friend has left you feeling lost. It’s so important to acknowledge how much companionship and connection with others can impact our sense of purpose.
You’re already doing so many meaningful things—knitting for charity and creating things you sell are amazing contributions! They show that you’re using your skills to make a difference, even if it doesn’t always feel like it. But I get that sometimes, even doing good things can feel like they’re not enough when loneliness or that sense of “something’s missing” creeps in.
Maybe what you’re feeling is more about wanting a deeper connection or something that sparks excitement beyond your usual routine. It might help to explore other passions or activities that give you that same sense of connection that spending time with your friend brings. Volunteering, joining a group that shares your interests, or even learning something new could help add some spark to your days.
Sometimes our purpose shifts throughout life, and that’s okay. It doesn’t make you a “loser” in any way; it just means you’re in a phase of trying to figure out what’s next. You’re already doing incredible things—you just might need to find something new that excites you. It’s also okay to take time for yourself, even if that means having some slower, more reflective days. You matter, and your journey toward finding what fills your heart and mind is valid. With love, SG
i have actually found some meaning today as i am learning a new pattern and this has given me great excitement. i know its nothing major, but its really exciting as i can give these as gifts and even sell them to the pubic, so its excitin g to me
I understand how you feel—it’s okay to feel lost sometimes. You’re already doing great things like knitting for charity, trying something new like joining a club, volunteering, or part-time work can add more purpose. If you still feel down, talking to psychiatric care could really help. You’re not a loser—you’re just looking for something more.
thank you
what type of club could i join?