I am living with an alcoholic who says he isn't one and that he can quit anytime he wants to. He just started drinking after we moved. It was a good move. He was happy about it. Five months later he starts drinking. He was a happy drinker, so I left him alone until I noticed a pattern. I'd never seen him drink before. We'd been together 2 1/2 years or more. Then BOOM!
By now he is not a pleasant drinker. He is mouthy, verbally abusive, and likes to pick on me. I try to avoid him but it is really hard to do this now that he has brought his drinking from the garage into the house itself.
He attended counseling in the past, says he is not willing to any more. He thinks AA is for other people that have drinking problems, not him.
I stayed in a hotel once. Yes, it got that bad. I had to get some sleep. I have diabetes and him yelling at me and making fun of me have created a situation in which my blood sugar is somewhat out of control though it is ever so slowly getting better. But now my doctor is putting me on insulin.
I have talked to him about his behavior, the next day. He says he is very sorry and a **** and he won't do it again. Then he does it again.