It's been 2 years since my seperation Why do I still feel so lonely ?
That is a very good question.I myself have been separated for 6 months.I was married for 17 years have 2 kids. Right know the hardest part for me is being alone.
You are with someone for a time you mind is always thinking.But when alone its like my brain goes numb.I end up talking to myself or to the pets.Guess we can only hope some day we will find someone who understand who we are.I still go to rush home,but while driving I remember no one is there.This site has also helped me get through this.You are not alone remember we are all here to help.
Good Luck
Zimmy
That question can really only be answered by yourself (at least I think so). I think that a possible solution would be to separate the total feeling of loneliness into different parts. Say these parts are anger, fear, lack of physical or emotional contact, etc... Then try tackling the individual parts one at a time. How? I don't know, but my boat isn't too far from yours. You will prosper and be better, just keep up your spirits. Best wishes
Thank you..
I was married for 12 years this Thursday is our Final Court Date. I am glad I am on this site now I'm late but I guess the saying is true better late than never!!
I will have to try splitting my thoughts and work them out 1 at a time.Thanks for the advice.Good luck everybody.
This is why this site is so good we all are on the same page when we go here
Thanks
I've decided to file for divorce from my husband of 18 years. We have 2 boys ages 14 and 11. He has had years of secrets and unpaid debts that I've just come to know about. He leaves bills & mail unopened. He hasn't had a job for 6 months and has withdrawn all of the kids' college savings without my consent. We own 2 homes (one a former rental) which is about to go into foreclosure. He has been irresponsible with managing money and is pulling me down with him. He also has been verbally abusive for years and has a great deal of anger that is taken out on me, not the kids. I'm so worried that I will regret this decision because I do still care about him and I don't want the kids to experience a lifetime of hurt by my decision. We've gone through counseling and other various support groups. Things get better for a bit and then the routines set in again. I just fear for my financial future as the result of decisions he's made. I do have a full and part time job and have a masters degree, so I am capable of supporting myself. I'm just so sad that my dreams for myself and my children are ending. I also don't have any family nearby which makes it hard. If anyone has gone through a similar situation, I would appreciate knowing how you dealt with it.
C
Dear court
I have just gone through a simiular situation.
Mine left me with a heavy dept no money in bank.
Took kids money and even sold things during the divorce process worth thousands.With none of money going to me for bills.House has to be sold to pay her off.My credit is so bad right now a lone shark would not even loan me money.
My kids are 8-10 girl and boy.I have had to deal with them asking me who me girlfriend was.NO Girlfreind.Mommy's right your mean.Mommy's right she should of never married you.I have had kids in therapy since August.The moved out in september and when I see them on my weekend they still go to therapy.This has helped so much they are caught in something that was not their problem but do not understand.
Do not bad mouth your ex infront of children.Be honest with them about the situation.This site has been a blessing for me,so keep talking on it.We are all hear for you.It will be hard in the beginning but as time goes by you will see you have done the best thing for yourself and your children.Close freinds can help to if you have some you can talk to.Its a long hard road but time will help with the pain.Keep your head up.Do not look back look forward to a new horizon in your lives.
Zimmy