I am looking for people to message me to talk with someone, as I am a shutin and haven't left the house in almost 3 years, Thank God for my daughter and son who do everything outside the house for me. Dennis in Tucson. Please write me Thank you
almost 60 man
thank u for your post, could i ask why u are a shutin?
and how lucky are u to have the children do all the running around u must tell me the secret :)
but on a lighter note i hope u are well and looking forward to many a conversation about life and things in general
as always loving thoughts and positive vibes
D :)
Hi almost
I first noticed another post of yours that said something like 3 years and I'm still lost w/o her. Sorry I know I'm not remebering it verbatum. Of
course you've heard everybody grieves differently and yes we are all different so you take the most devastating tragedy, the one that no really
DOES NOT get better with time. Sometimes it gets worse, For me it got
worse.
My husband died almost 20 yrs ago, We were together 12 years, but he was
my family, my partner, my completion. Although I didn't stay in my home, I
definately hid. I got cold, cold at heart, waited about 6 years and then entered into a relationship I think out of physical desire, I was 36. What I
guess I'm trying to say is I still had to deal, my heart wasn't really cold, I just never believed I could find another love. And yes I love my children,
but life w/o completion w/o love, w/o debate, w/o your partner in everything, sucks. Sorry for the drama but very true.
I'd talk to you anytime, and we have to believe that our spouses know how
much they are missed.
with best intention,
Denise
georgie
i guess what u say is right but we cant give up and we have to find a way thru the horrors of living again without our best buddies to help us
you are right in the sense that our partners do know how we are faring and want us to suceed not so much in relationships with others although for a few that does happen but to move forward so that we are as stable and complete as we can possibly be
for some it never gets any better than luke warm but thats ok as long as the person is happy in them selves at that stage of life to live laugh love again is a personal choice just as it was when we first found our mate but we move on knowing that our mates want the very best for us and cheer when we are up and offer silent comfort when we are down
but u have a great day
love D
dear georgie, i am sorry for your loss, my mom lost her love of her life 7 years ago and she suffers today just as much. i lost my husband to divorce and my family broke assunder and i have never recovered. it is a tragic thing that happened to me. two of my children died along the way and i have never recovered from the loss. this is the first year my sister finally got me to wear some colors.
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but domestic is right we have to go on, we are given this life for a reason and part of it is here to enjoy and love life and live it. i wish you prayer and meditation as an avenue to healing and wellness. your brain can actually change it's brain chemistry from poor to good through the practice of these avenues.
i wish you a loving God who will love you through your grief and help you find a happy note to end the day on despite your sorrow and loss.
all my best with hope for your future and faith in your efforts, a prayer warrior.
Dear Stanisz
Thank you so very much for your kindness, I wish I could deal better.
I dont want to play this horrible record over and over again. I just always
feel so overwhelmed. And its not so much a partner I need although if I
could connect with someone that would be great,
I think like you said I have to change my negative ways, And truely I would listen to anymore info you have on prayer and meditation. Did someone show you?
Also sorry for your horrible losses. You mentioned having twin sons that
are scitzophranic (sorry). My 25 yr old son was a twin, I lost him in my fifth
month of preg, Since he turnrf 21 or22 he started becoming more and more depressed, thats what the psych says but I feel it is more then depression. He walks like in slow motion and he was a 4.0 student who cant do simple things, it is frightening.
Maybe we could correspond more.
thanks and best intention,
Denise
dear georgie girl, Denise, it was great to hear back from you. i love it when people write back. i too get lonely and lost out here in life. right now for example, my husband is sleeping the afternoon away. not tto say i did not take an afternoon nap myself i did. i am exhausted from a trip up to washington where i went to visit my family of origin. it was wonderful.
but now i am back. i did go for a walk with one of my SZ sons and it was a nice walk. he was in a good mood and friendly to walk with and it was satisfying to be with him.
can you go to the psych doc with your son and tell the doc what you notice about your son's behaviour. sometimes that helps. i am very sorry for his condition pray that he receive the help he needs to regain a sense of wellness and productivity.
meditation and prayer is mostly about the breath and concentration. i am christian so for me i say the Jesus prayer along with the breath. i focus on my heart and breath and say Lord Jesus Christ have mercy on me. with each gentle breath in and out . you can also start by focusing on a special dog or cat or animal, flower or tree, it doesn't matter. God will reward your efforts. i urge you to try it.
sit or lay down in a comfortable position with the spine straight and be supported. be gentle always. when the mind wanders never worry just gently bring your attention back to the task at hand and refocus your attention on your meditation. you will get relaxed and you may doze off that's ok.
i went to church this morning and it was great although i am so tired it is hard for me to sit through it and take it all in and i wonder how i make it through the services sometimes. i am very ill with fibromyalgia, chronic pain and fatigue, so it is hard for me on other levels as well.
i saw your post about the methadone. you say you know some one who needs help in that area. did you see the methadone group here on support groups?
i would like to correspond too. all my best with hope and faith and loving kindness. let me know how the meditation thing goes. your prayer warrior, maria
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