long night.. I get yelled at about buying some chicken salad. my narc literally wanted to argue for hours about it.. one hour before he was sweet and kind for about a minute. I had to plug in headphones to keep the harsh words out of my head.
Living with a narc is truly a kind of hell and if I had my way, everyone in that situation would have the means and option to leave it within the hour. No one should have to endure it.
That just proves narcs aren't normal. Who argues (especially that long) about chicken salad? Or anything else petty that they just want to rant about
Exactly.. I just look at him now with a much clearer picture.. Thanks to all of you here . Also reading Lucyrising has helped me understand that its not me... he usually rants about ANYTHING he can conjure up in his screwed up head.
right on .. me too. They are pretty miserable people. I can still find joy in life .. in spite of the fact he try to steal it all away.
Saying anything to them only FEEDS them.. I usually try to remain silent. He usually keeps arguing anyway.. mumbling under his breath and calling me names is his favorite pastime.
Oh ..... I am a talker also.. Chatty Kathy in fact. So difficult not throwing it right back at him.. i just want him to pass out from his drunken state and leave me the hell alone. I have found that getting on the phone with his dad shuts him up.. He does not want his dad to know how he treats me.
I just got the chicken salad from the fridge and he added tons of mayonnaise ( he knows I can’t have) to my perfect chicken salad… Just to be in control and ruin my day… high cholesterol and he knows i can’t have it now.