Looking for advice. I am a 21 year old female and my boyfrieLooking for advice. I am a 21 year old female and my

Looking for advice. I am a 21 year old female and my boyfriend and I have been together for several months and we have been experiencing issues with erectile dysfunction. He is 28 and the doctor says it's not very common for men his age to be experiencing ED. He suspects it could be psychological rather than physical. We have tried Viagra, but it causes him severe headaches so we've decided to stop. When we first started dating it was really hot and heavy but no sex and now he doesn't really care about sex, and the odd time we actually do have sex, he finishes really quickly and gets frustrated or he will get hard then loose it all of a sudden. I feel really bad when I get in the mood and I am not sure how to approach him about it without stressing him out, but I really want to have sex with him. I am trying to be patient with him and take our time but I feel like we are not making any progress. I feel completely helpless and I really want to make this work for the both of us. I know this is a sensitive issue so any advice from men and women would be greatly appreciated.

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As much as you love him, if he isn't willing to find a solution, are you willing to stay?

@CKarma I worry about that all the time. I know how shallow and selfish it may seem for me to break up with someone over this and he really is someone wonderful to settle down with, but I don’t want to wake up one morning years from now and resent him. I feel like I am supposed to learn something from this but I’m not nearly ready to give up my sex life.

crazy as this may seem once hes hard put a rubber band around it as tight as he can it will
trap the blood in his penis and it will stay hard warning it can be a little hard getting rubber band off dont leave on over an hour

@withalittlehelp I’ve tried similar things but when it starts to go it’s gone so quick. But thank you for the tip.