My brother recently got married to a girl my family doesnt really see as the best for him. HE has never been good at picking his girlfriends and now that hes married its that much harder. Its a repetitive pattern. The more involved he gets the less we see and hear from him. Well he got married in Hawaii and my mother paid for everything (including travels of people she didnt need to purchase) and now that we got home he hasnt talked to her except to say she needs to apologize to his wife because in hawaii she was yelling at my aunt in a public place in her face and my mom simply put her hand over her mouth and said she needed to calm down and everything was fine. My brother now has no desire to see his family. This includes mother, sister, niece and nephew and more. Anyways this girl has him by his balls and its the worst we have seen. He knows we do not care for her but we accept her cause he believes he is happy, i believe he sees the things she has done to this family but he is not man enough to approach the situation. His wife believes she can never be wrong and its sad. Ive completely lost my brother this time and i hurts my mom and thats my biggest thing. you dont hurt my mom, or you see the ugly side of me. I can get pretty ugly too. but seeing my mom depressed breaks my heart and i dont know what to do without upsetting her!
I completely understand what you're going through, I've been there.
Now the only thing you should worry about is try to help your mom, and make her feel better, by being beside her, helping her, talking to her, do not leave her alone or she'll just be even more depressed!
When it comes to your brother give him some time, don't contact him let him see how life can be without you, and he may realise what mistakes he made, and then you can talk to him.
I don't know if I'm taking the right approach here, it is my first post, and I don't know if it's the way I should be handling stuff.
Anyway what I mean is be there for your mom, she needs to know that she's not loosing you.
dandy213 - i am sorry to hear about your brother. It is tough to say what the right thing to do hear is. Maybe FatmaEl is right, take a little time apart from your brother then star talking to him. Space may be what you need after the wedding. Has your brother been this way even when he is not in a relationship? Perhaps try spending some one on one time to see what is happening with him and to talk to him about things going on with the family. Or maybe just meet with him and don’t talk about any problems at all to just ease in to spending time with one another. If you are feeling very brave maybe spend time one on one with his wife to get to know her better and this may be a sign to her that she can ease up and be more comfortable around the family.
Good luck and let us know how things go.