My 43 year old husband Matt passed away two weeks ago. He died of liver failure and had been sick since last summer. It was so hard to watch this tall, strong man waste away. He lapsed into a coma seven weeks before he died. I visited him every day in the hospital and later at a rehab hospital and talked to him, even though I wasn't sure he could hear me. We have a three year old daughter who keeps asking where her daddy is and why he can't come home. She doesn't really understand what's going on. It's hard sometimes taking care of her when all I want to do is break down and cry. Ever since the funeral no one has called. I feel so alone. All I do is cry and think of him and all the plans we had for the future. I hate getting up in the morning knowing Matt is gone forever. There is a big empty space in my heart and life that will never be filled. I miss him so much it's just unbearable.
miynka, my most deepest heart felt sympathies....i hope you can find some solice and support here. hug that baby girl for me. please let us know how you and your daughter are doing. please post often so we can listen and love and support you during this difficult time.
mirynika, I'm new here and so sorry for your loss. My husband passed away Oct. 21, 2001. does it get easier, yes, you learn to live with it. I was 46 he was 55. I still miss him. I don't see that stopping. But I promise you the pain subsides and you will be able to remember without pain. In the mean time remember your little girl needs you. If I can help in anyway let me know.
take care,
big hugs to you and your little girl, Wendy
Dearest mirynika, You have my heartfelt sympathy during this difficult time. I will be praying for you and your little one. I just lost my husband (48 yrs old) on February 24, 2011. What I can share and you probably already know is that there are a range of emotions you (and your daughter) will go through. Its okay..... let time have its time........
.I am always checking this group, so if I can help in anyway, please know that I (and others) are here for you. I understand people about not calling, his family has not called me once since the funeral. Nonetheless, I have seen the love and grace of God from certain co-workers, friends, neighbors and even strangers....
I know it is difficult to share this loss with a child, I had to tell our grandchildren - ages 3 & 6.....I will never forget the look in their eyes when the 6 year old heard the words come out of my mouth. My husband and I practically raised the 6 year old from her birth.....We are working on a memory book now.....its her pace, some days we draw, we write, read a book (on their level about loosing someone), library has a lot of nice books, or we color or nothing at all....
Just a little suggestion, yes you must be strong for your daughter, AND you need to take care/time for yourself. Do you have a local "mommy morning out" program in your area for a few hours? Does your daughter attend day care? take a few hours for yourself...
Please know you CAN make it....Yes, .I am stubmling, crying and at times a little angry, but I believe (from what others tell me) things will get better....in time. I'm waiting on my change to come (as my grandmom would say)....
Be encouraged.....
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