i am 18 and single and have no close friends. last year due to several misunderstandings and some stupid mistakes i lost my closest friends. i tried to make amends but it wouldnt work. now we dont even go to the same school and never meet. i dont no what to do. i feel too lonely. hang out with people bt i no they are not gud friends and dont really care. i also like this guy who doesnt notice me.i really feel depressed at times.need help.
Annanya:
Howdy! :)
We all make mistakes and friends come and go. As a military spouse, when I make a friend - I already know it's temporary because we have to move so often.
Are you a reader? You should go to giant bookstore and browse the self-help aisle and look specifically for books about self-esteem. I think learning about what self-esteem really is and how you can improve yours would be a great place for you to start. Once you've begun that journey, you'll probably be able to self-guide and figure out what to "work on" next in reference to self-improvement. You'll become happier being yourself which will help in making friends and making good friends. You may subconsciously feel that you don't deserve a good friend or the friends you have now should have to care about you. At any rate, I think developing a working knowledge of self esteem and building your own self esteem for you is where you should focus for right now.
If you need a lead, check out Dr Elaine Aron's book The Undervalued Self. You can get it from www.amazon.com for a good price.
Also, an enriching, fun, and enlightening read in regard to relationships is Patti Stanger's book Become Your Own Matchmaker- also available from Amazon. I strongly recommend BOTH books!
Good luck and let us know how you're doing!