Hi, I am new to this group. I am looking for advice on how to help my son deal with the death of his dad. He is nine and lost his dad to a motorcycle accident about 4 weeks ago. This has been very hard on us both. Unfortunately my son blames himself for not making his dad stay home. My son has even said that when he gets to be his dads age he is going to get a bike ride to where he died on the same day and wreak in the same way. He talks to his dad as if he was here. He sees his dad. I am not sure how to help him get threw this and to understand there was nothing he could have done to stop this from happening. I have had a hard time with this also. We were not together but he was my first love one of my best friends. We talked almost everyday. now I have to find a way to grieve and be strong for my son. Please any advice or just someone to talk to would be great.
thanks
We come to this life with certain purpose and we leave when our time is up. We do not know why and when, this is a mystery of life. It is good that he communicates with his dad and I believe that he sees him, children are very intuitive. You should always ask him how is his dad. It is very difficult for adults, but for children even more difficult do deal with this loss. Only time and your constant support and love will help him to heal. Try to be very understanding and compassionate. It is very helpful for you and for him to watch Joel Osteen and he also has written several books that will help to understand life in a very delicate way. God will be there for you and your son, and help you through this emotional time. God bless you always.
blue eyes
honey im so sorry but your nine year old is reacting quite normally in this situation
children dont view death as we do cos being gone forever has no meaning for them at this age dont worry too much about him chattin to his dad unless it becomes out of hand and dont worry about what he is going to do at his dads age he will have matured by then and probably have a laugh about it all
just keep an eye on him and dont challenge about things that are harmless but more to the point how are u feeling during this period of time i know u have to get up in the morning for your sons sake and do things but dont forget to let the whole emotions run and show your son its ok to be sad angry and happy all in the same day
be kind to u
love D
Thank you for your support and prayers.
blueyes
how have things been this past week
love D