How do I support someone I love who has recently relapsed while still taking care of myself. I've been forgiving him for choosing the drug over all else but it's causing me to become more and more depressed. I've never been in this position before, as he's been sober the 4 years I've known him, and I'm not sure how to best handle things. Thank you for your suggestions and support.
Believe it or not, even though I am an addict and you are a loved one, I feel your pain...You, Andie, need to worry about yourself and maybe distance yourself. I am sure your world is chaotic, unpredictable, and depressing. I, too, tend to get depressed a lot....(got diagnosed as depressed as a teen...before the meth use). I do not think I can give u any suggestions at the moment but I do send you ((((Hugs))) and much support. I hope all becomes well......Jenanne
Jeanne, thank you for your advice. I think you put into words what I knew I had to do. It's not easy to decide to leave somebody, it feels like I'm giving up on him, but it's true I need to take care of me. Thank you again and I hope all is well with you. Andi
Andi,
I am with Jeanne in the fact that I am on the other side of the fence. I am an addict too. However my boyfriend is not and he has never used. I know this much. There is a huge progression with addiction and it gets to a point where no matter how much you love someone the drug always wins in the midst of addiction. The drug takes over and begins to control you. Its a fucking nightmare. My boyfriend feels the same as you do that I choose Meth over everyone else including him. Most of the time now I am doing it to avoid the misery of my thoughts and withdrawal. Alot of it depends on how long he has been using etc. Keep your head up and dont blame yourself. If he has progressed to my stage then he honestly wants to quit but is now at the mercy of the drug and is trying to find a solid way out that will stick =)
Thank you for your input, I appreciate getting a better understanding for what he is feeling and going through. I'm sorry that you struggle with the addiction, at a level that seems to be similar to my boyfriend. I understand it's not easy to quit using, and honestly I'm not asking that of him. What I want for him, is I'm sure similar to what your boufriend wants for you, just to be healthy and happy. You are in my thoughts and prayers and I know you will be able to work through the addiction just like I'm confident my boyfriend will too, it's all just a matter of when. Take care!!!