My partner and I have been together for five years now. I will not deny that the majority of our relationship has been hard, and I will go as far as saying that most of it has been a complete mess. We have our ups and downs, like all couples do. But I find that the majority of the time, our relationship is in the down area. We have built a life together now. We own a home, a car, a business, pets. We own material items together. My life is so great that I get to stay at home while she works. I actually get to be at home and be a "house wife". So, I bet your saying... "whats the problem then?" I don't think I'm in love with her. She is my best friend, she is my "person"! But I just don't feel that "I love you feeling" and looking back on it, I don't think I ever have. In this relationship I have lived with the idea that, all relationships, after some time or another, turn into a great friendhsip and that without friendship as the base, the relationship will not make it. We've had that friendship from day one. So, I guess I figured... we would just be okay, some how. I know that she loves me, I mean... loves me like I am that one and only person for her. Is it wrong that I don't feel the same? What's better, the perfect life or the perfect person? Help.
It is difficult to say exactly about the relationship. You have to be honest with yourself, because you are in this situation. Take time and evaluate, material things come and go, your feelings should be without any reservation. Life goes fast, take a brake and think seriously what is really bothering you. God bless you.