Usually my husband and I spend Saturdays/weekends sitting around the house which we are both ok with since we are both homebodies. But yesterday I suggested we do something spontaneously together and get out of the house, just us two, away from everything. We live in NC. So we drove down to South of the Border in SC. I knew that my husband has been wanting to go there to pick up some fireworks. It takes a couple of hours to get there. So this is what we did. We weren't in a hurry. We took our time driving down and back. We were gone for several hours. We stopped a couple of times at a couple of restaurants to get a bite to eat. The best part though was just being together away from everyone and everything. During the ride in the car we listened to music at times, talked at times and then sometimes it was just quiet. We both enjoyed it very much. We may have to plan a road trip again in the near future. Maybe we'll drive down to the beach next time and possibly stay overnight a few nights. :)
I think it does couples good to make time to spend time together alone.
I honestly believe that a couple that doesn't insist on private time together can't possibly expect to stay together happily. You've GOT to enjoy being together, alone and uninterrupted, to appreciate and remember why you got together in the first place.
I agree Graywolf. My husband and I do usually have alone time at home but we have our daughters here also. The two oldest are grown. The youngest has one year left in high school. My husband and I have been having more alone time since our kids have gotten older. I think the next adventure for my husband and me will be a trip to the beach for a few days. His mother has one of those time share things and has made the offer to us. Now just doing it.
IM VERY HAPPY FOR YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND! YOU TWO SEEM TO HAVE SOMETHING REAL SPECIAL GOING ON......MY BOYFRIEND AND I ARE ALWAYS TOGETHER BUT I WISH THERE WAS MORE QUALITY TIME SPENT TOGETHER AND LESS INTERRUPTIONS.
That's so wonderful Bluidkiti! You are truly a beautiful example of how to keep a relationship healthy and happy. And, I love that you will be getting away to the beach for one-on-one time together and a nice change of scenery.
Thank you everyone. My husband and I are slowly making the adjustment to more time alone together. It feels sort of like when we first started out as a married couple. We are looking at doing things for ourselves now without always having to think about the kids first. I look forward to our future together.
That is such a wonderful and beautiful thing Bluidkiti! I look at my parents, who I love and adore, and I feel like they are still living for their kids who have all been out of the house for over 10 years now. I don't think they know how to transition and have been having a hard time doing so. I really wish that they would get out more, but I feel like they are stuck in a rut and really don't know what to do with themselves without us. I wish that I could somehow help them, and we have all tried to encourage them to travel though they really don't have an interest.
I really don't like traveling much myself. So that is why I am starting with short trips from home. My husband was in the service for 12 years. We traveled so very much during that time. We are both homebodies. Getting use to the kids not being here as much and one of them having moved out has been hard. I feel maybe harder for me than my husband but you know how men are sometimes about showing their feelings about things. My husband has really been here for me with my dealing with our middle daughter moving out. We keep taking it a day at a time.
That's such a great way to go; I am a huge advocate and believer in taking small steps when making life adjustments and changes. I think that I need to work on my parents slowly but surely; maybe small outings will lead to a day trip and that will lead to a bigger trip.