I have known this man for twenty years, in all those years i never met his family he never introduced me to anyone he always told me that it was not necessary, i went along with it i loved him about six months ago i found out that his wife has been living with him for many years, i also found out thru a social network that he bought her a house. i am just so debastated. i feel so lonely and so used. we have no seen each other for six months. can somebody advise me as to what to do??? what should my next step be?
i guess with hindsight u could have seen the writing on the wall, its rare in such a long relationship not to see other family members friends but love as they say is blind so dont be so harsh on yourself
first things first take the time to look at what has upset u the most and be honest about it. evaluate how u feel both mentally and physically do u need to see a doctor or a therapist about how u are feeling or is it more a case of anger and embarrasment about the whole thing?
it is a difficult time and the ailments will come and go as will the tears and anger but at least u will have made a start on the road to recovery
wishing you have a more peaceful day
loving vibes and positive thoughts
D :)
thank you so very much for your comment. You are so right, the tears come and go…I have been thinking about seeing a therapist? He was using me while his wife came to this country, she came and he never ever told me anything. I want to forget, but is so so so difficult!!!,do you think is necessary to go to a therapist?? I hate to say this, but I am not a young woman not at all, I wonder if at my age I will be able to forget this terrible experience and meet someone who will love me and appreciate me.
martinaluz
hon im no youngster either but he did use u and that was wrong of him to impede on your generosity without making his intentions clear about his wife.
i think u need the therapy not to forget but to forgive yourself for being drawn into this situation, its a way for u to see that u were not to blame as im sure u are thinking if u had just done this that and the other it would have been different but it wouldnt have been here was a man who had no intentions of giving up his cake or changing the status quo
do u think he is sobbing his heart out at all that has happened? i dont think so
its time for u to seek help before u allow this man to do u any more harm than he has done
hope u have a better day
as always loving thoughts and positive vibes
D :)