hey there..i m a damsel in distress..ever since my boyfriend and i went different ways for our studies i got into masturbation.i was always against porn and masturbation and oral sex..but ever since he went away to another city..i started masturbating..i went on to porn sites watched videos of lesbians cz thats what turned me on and i used 2 masturbate watching that..
i really hate watching erotic and hardcore porn it makes me puke.but just watching 2girls kiss and make our turned me on..and now i am hating myself..looks as though i am losing my self esteem..me and my guy started cam sex. i am happy while i am on cam masturbating by watching him but the moment its over i feel like killing myself..i hate myself ..and now its gone overboard i need help to stop myself from masturbating.its just a disgusting act but i am not able 2 stop myself.can somebody pls help me overcome this??
hi there
i dont think u need to beat yourself up over this as its normal to attend to business when u have to.
i think u may need to deal with the guilt this is causing u. it could b a left over from childhood where that type of thing wasnt quite nice.
lots of people do it and the "sex industry" is one of the biggest world wide.
as long as it isnt being forced on you and u like it then my advice is enjoy it while u can
loving thoughts and positive vibes
I agree with domestic. What you are doing is not "wrong". It is apart of life and infact it is quite healthy to explore yourself.
But if you feel uncomfortable with what you are doing with your boyfriend, stop and continue doing what you enjoy alone. It is meant for the privacy of you only. Being on webcam can be dangerous
Muzikbaby, there is absolutely nothing wrong with giving ourselves pleasure as said above it is healthy for our mind,bodies & spirit as long as it doesnt harm yourself or anyone else or take control of ones life, balance is best & if you are loathing yourself after the fact w/some of the cam stuff dont do it then, respect yourself, trust your guts & be true to yourself, keep talking, am proud of you for that.
April
YES,APRIL MAKES ALOT OF SENSE ON THIS ONE.
Masturbation is a very natural thing. The majority of people do it or have done it in the past. Even if they won't admit it. Is it possible that your bi-sexual? Asking because of the porn you like.
Anything in excess isnt good.
Except hot fudge sundaes, April! jk.
Muz - Woody Allen said: "Is sex dirty? Only when it's being done right."
The human sexual being is VERY complicated (and yet, basically simple - what a crazy juxtaposition).
It only started making sense to me once I read about the book Sperm Wars - there's a head trip for ya.
Anyway - give yourself a break. It'll be ok.
I have struggled with the same situation for a couple of years. I am gone from my relationship for very long periods of time due to my job. Sometimes, 6 months to a year at a time. I felt a lot of guilt for a long time when I masterbated. After a lot of soul searching and reading I came to the conclusion that if it is only between I and my significant other than it is perfectly normal. As stated above it is only when it starts interfering with responsibilities, safety, or other relationships that it becomes abnormal. In fact this problem is part of the reason that I joined this group. To make sure that I keep it between me and my significant other and not act out with someone else.
Well said Jay T & 100% correct as with anything in life huh.
shuttlebill, hot fudge sundaes would be alot safer :-)
the best way to stop masturbating if you wish to is to block all the porn sites, that is what i did and it has helped me.
there's nothing wrong with masturbating and exploring your own body. It's something just about everyone has done or does. It's not a sex addiction or a problem at all. It's only a real problem if you can't go a few hours without masturbating and are constantly having to masturbate several times throughout the day. If it's just sometimes or at night or with you boy friend then it's fine. Porn makes you excited but you shouldn't beat yourself up for it. IT's NORMAL as long as it doesn't interfere with your daily life. For example if you can't go out because you have to stay home and masturbate all day then it's a problem but what you described doesn't seem like it's abnormal. Also there are differnt types of porn for a reason. you don't like to watch hard core. some people prefer softer porn and that's ok too. I don't think there is anything wrong with you. But maybe try seeing a counselor to discuss this if it's making you feel suicidal!
I agree with what has been said here. If you are still functioning normal in life, holding down your job, still doing things with friends etc then I don't see an issue. I also think that webcam thing is not an issue. I have a feeling that is bothering you cause of the guilt you feel afterward. In my opinion if it is mutual masturbation done out of love and a way to connect and in a round about way make love when you cannot be together then I actually say good for you for finding something to help keep your relationship alive. I think that is healthier than both of you 'relieving you tensions' and not talking about it. What a great way to show your lover how much you miss them.
But at the same time if you are really very uncomfortable with it then talk to him and explain it is making you feel like you hate yourself. Maybe together you can figure out why it is bothering you and come up with a solution that still allows you to show your love for him and not making you hate yourself.
Luck and Love
well, i just joined the group i guess you nd i aren't the only one.......
i noticed a fact that b4 break up i used to stay happy nd feel sleepy without masturbation nd now its sometimes 2-3 times a night....
nd wake up tired .....nd senseless.....
Masturbation is amazing, imagine how ****** you would feel without a few fingers on your clitoris or something? We all enjoy watching two girls kiss right? Or make passionate love? I sure do. I am straight, I like men- But every now and again I ring up my Pleasure-Pal. You should get one. You go to a sexual-desire clinic and you talk to them. they give you something called a 'pleasure-pal', which is when you get such an irritable sexual urge, you ring them up and you can just release any sexual emotions or pleasures to them. My one is a female, and whenever I get horny- ring her up and I just nibble on her labia or put a few fingers in her anus. It's okay- don't worry. I loooove masturbating, it makes me feel so good and warm, just keep going girl. Trust me- if I ever met you I would have my tongue down your troat.
What? Never heard of a pleasure pal. But it sounds great.