i was wondering if anyone knows the signs of mental of emotional abuse. if you have been through it please let me know how it started and progressed. or if youve seen it please give me insight. this is the story guys. i have been in a relationship with a man for almost 2 years that is in prison. he has been in prison for 8 years. weve never been together on the outside. he was my brothers friend and we started writing and what not. when we first got together we were happy everytime we talked, we got along great. hes always been my best friend for as long as ive known him. i did some things i wasnt proud of when i was addicted, i cheated on him but i didnt know what the big deal was at the time because he told me to live my life until he came home just dont fall in love or get pregnant. well for the last few months things have been very different with him. hes been cold and has been acting very cold toward me. so i want to know what the signs of being emotionally or mentally abused are because he himself says he thinks he may be but im not sure about it. im just VERY confused!
Hello there! Does he think that he's being mentally abused or you feel that you are mentally abused? I want to make sure that I understand correctly. I was in a relationship, that I ended in November, where I was verbally/mentally abused. It was absolutely awful and escalated as the relationship progressed, so I understand what it's like to be in that position.
he has told me himself that he thinks hes being emotionally abusive towards me, and he asked me if i thought he was. i told him i didnt know but i didnt think so. thats why im asking because i really dont know. people have told me in the past that he is manipulative and things like that...but im not sure???
Chelseajean
Emotional abuse: when a person continually puts you down or tries to lower you to raise their own self esteem. frequently criticize you, humiliate you, or undermine your self-esteem, ridicule you for expressing yourself,isolate you from friends, family or groups,limit your access to work, money or material resources, partner ever stolen from you? Or run up debts for you to handle,
relationship swing back and forth between a lot of emotional distance and being very close,thrown away your belongings, destroyed objects or threatened pets.
Mental abuse is the same as emotional abuse.
I took this off a website. Hope this helps!
Diane
I completely agree with Diane; I've been through emotional abuse and she totally covered all facets of it so accurately. Thank you for that.
If he told you himself that he's being emotionally abusive towards you, then he is being abusive plain and simple. You shouldn't tolerate this behavior. Either he needs to work on changing himself or you need to move on. No one, under any circumstance, deserves such treatment. I went through it and he continuously said "I am difficult" and would apologize, but never thought that he needed to change. He felt that was his character, so basically I had to take it or leave it. I left it and have never been happier.
wow that is so how it is. he tells me i am “hard to deal with” sometimes and that he “puts up with a lot of shit out of me”. when i really i dont do anything but yell back at him when he yells at because i refuse to be pushed around. he tells me he thinks this may just be him and that it may just be his nature, but he wasnt like this for the first year we were together. thank you all for sharing!
I lived this way for 4-years with 1 and with my husband of 18 years. My husband would take my childs ADHD meds and take them after I just the prescription filled. when I would go to get it the next moring the whole bottle would be gone and he told me, "You didn't fill it." Totally had me thinking I was crazy or going. Also told me one thing, did another, then told me he didn't say either. Told me one thing, someone else something else. I would ask him if he was happy. and he would say. Honey, I love you now what makes you think that? lol well all the complaining you do to other people that I dont do anything at all. He would tell me, "If I didn't love you, I wouldn't be here."
prior relationship, He left after throwing me into a wall and fracturing my spine. I got beat up on a nightly basis "just because", I now take pain pills because, I never went to the doctor, My back hurt then but after a few weeks it went away. Flash forward 9 years, I bent over to pick something off the floor and t-9 through T-12 caved in. Lucky me!!!! I got to become a legal drug addict!
Yes, when I run out I go through withdrawl. (now is a fine time to tell you today would be that day!! Got my prescription filled and will pick up tonight. but didn't have money to get until today. I've lived a fantastic life of pain pain and more pain.
Sorry, but If I can spare one person of reading my posts of getting into a relationship with someone on drugs or is abusive. If it just helps 1 person. It is worth telling my story.
Hugs to all of you
Diane