what a day! lol
I had an overall good day but my brother called me fat
(he said he was being honest) and then this guy on okcupid IMs me.
He said i was pretty and hot and then goes on to ask me if i want to model.....for this adult site he is trying to get up and running.....really????
I'm sorry that your brother made that comment, I am sure that he didn't mean it and it was misdirected anger. Regarding your experience with the ok-cupid guy, it's such an icky feeling that you should move on and away from. Don't let it discourage you. Block that person and report them immediately. I know that you will have success in this, sometimes we have to weed through the bad to get to the good.
Thanks Puppy,
My brother has his own issues with women, i mean he complains alot about the world and the people in it and droans on and on.
As for the okcupid guy, i did block him! what a ****. I know i'm just starting out and will try to keep my chin up and not take these people too seriously.
Oh, totally makes sense regarding your brother and his comment to you, so I really hope that you don't take it to heart. Sometimes people have their own issues and misdirect anger towards those who they know will forgive.
And, please keep your chin up re; dating. It's all onward and upward for you! I just know it!
Yes do keep your chin up, bet you'll find a nicer guy soon & I to am sorry that your brother was directing HIS frustrations in your direction. I admire you for staying strong minded w/the cupid thing.
April
thanks April!
i appreciate your encouragement! :)
keep trying! the online dating stuff takes a lot of time. and it sucks, but you have to weed out all these randoms to find to good ones.
good luck, and let us know how things go!
Single-
With all due respect, I think maybe you've got things swapped. Your brother sounds like he may have been the day's asshole--- what you know about him and his issues and history, help to undercut his credibility and invalidate his 'opinion', no matter the circumstances.
The okcupid guy, maybe he was a **** or an idiot but there's every reason to believe in the sincerity of his compliments to you-- sure, he seems to have been using flattery to try and entice you into amateur porn, but that doesn't invalidate his compliments. It just means that his motives aren't quite matching up to what you're looking for right now (I hate emoticons but if I didn't I'd probably use the wink/smile one here).
I'm not saying he sounds like an awesome dude and you're crazy for not hearing him out-- not at all-- I'm just saying that he seems to have been the lesser of the day's two evils, to paraphrase Thomas Jefferson (I think that was Jefferson).
Ross
Single, I'm so sorry your brother was so insensitive. I know when people who are close to your heart say things like that the wounds are deeper.
My sister-in-law used to call me fat all the time, so did my brother-in-law and I mean all the time! Fat girl, fat ***, wide load, mac truck...you get the point.
I know they were just teasing, but it got to a point where I was really hurt and didn't even want to be around them.
You are very beautiful! Your brother needs a kick in the head. So does the guy from okcupid. Maybe you should let the two of them go out on a date! LOL!
On-line dating is definately different. I was tempted to write a book on my past dating life and calling it
The Book of A$$holes.
Word of advice - don't date people from craig's list. TRUST ME!
Beautiful, you crack me up. I will be the first in line to buy your book. You have a fantastic writing style and I highly encourage you to write it.
Thanks Beautiful! i agree! you should write a book...i would definately read it.
Hi Ross,
maybe its because we are different genders but i don't see that as a compliment at all. I see what you are saying but its not a good thing to be asked to be on a porn site! i did have a good laugh though!
Well I’m glad you had a laugh about it. For the record, I don’t think an invite to a porn site is complimentary. But he did say he thought you were attractive, and whether he’s gorgeous or a goblin or just hooked on porn, that’s the part I was referring to, especially set against your brother’s chosen adjective.
I have a brother, I don’t have any sisters, but if I did have a sister and she dropped personal insults on me, man, that would suck. I’ve never thought about that before.
I'm not sure my boyfriend would want to hear about all the "befores". LOL! He might try to go kill some of them!
small price to pay! LOL!
Hey Single Lady,
Sorry about your bro, sometimes siblings suck...but we love their silly stupid heads anyway because of good times they give. Did you tell him that he did hurt you with that comment?
And as for the guy...I'm sorry to say but try and take the good as what Ross was saying...that your gorgeous...and let go of the bad. I've had so many guys saying oh where do you live in the city and fancy meeting up for some "fun" tonight. Well not a notion do I have of doing that. Just it's because that's what they want doesn't mean it's what I want. I try not to take it as a personal insult cos they are horny little gits who like to chance their arm behind a computer screen...you just have to try and ignore the bad apples and keep the good ones the same as with life.
So keep going hun, and you are beautiful, so don't absorb that comment from your bro, that is what he is feeling and was not about you at all hun...so remember that.
Love to you
Moongal xxx
Moongal–
You said exactly what I’d wanted to say but couldn’t seem to put into words ----minus your bafflingly awesome grammatical constructions and killer, rhythmic phrasing, that is. your Irishness bursts out of that middle paragraph.
but wait why are you “sorry to say” that my suggestion was a good one?
ross
Hey Ross,
I think I was following two trains of thought and I wanted to say your idea was great and I was sorry about that guy, but I kind of smushed the two together, you'd swear the world was running out of words :)
Sorry..hehe
Moongal x
No apology necessary, as a writer by trade and a former English major with an emphasis on Irish authors, that middle paragraph is such a blast to read, you could have insulted me and I still would have gotten the better out of the deal. The Irish literary tradition is so awesome- how does such a small country produce so many Nobel laureates in literature- a list that does NOT include Joyce or Wilde?