More anxiety. She texted me Friday about downloading some st

More anxiety. She texted me Friday about downloading some stupid communication app. She said she was going to write me a check for half the adoption subsidy at that point too. Then I ignored her texts for the rest of the weekend and at some point she changed her mind about writing that check and refused to do so. The last thing she said on Sunday was since I was not responding she was not going to text me anymore and was going to tell my lawyer. COOL! Everything was smooth sailing from that point on. No communication at all yesterday. Then halfway through the day I get this email:

I am attempting to add the kids appointments to the AppClose app I added last week. It seems you have not downloaded it. Please download it as soon as possible so I can add the kids appointments. I text you the link last week. I also need to add information regarding the charges you made to the Kroger visa. I have the statement and I believe I am able to download it directly to that app.
Thanks

Sent from my iPhone

My response may get me put in jail:

I am not five years old. I don't need an app to take care of my children. You need to grow up. You abused your children. You cheated on your husband. YOU reap the consequences. There are NO consequences for me. I've never done a thing to you. I blindly loved you and overlooked every single fault you have. Then I tried to help you. FOR TWO YEARS! I've put my life on hold trying to help you. It's not my fault that we have spent $25,000 on this. It's not my fault that our children have to be in therapy. It's not my fault that their lives are so uprooted. YOU are responsible for their unhappiness. NOT ME. I just want to be free from you. I want my children to be free from you. You have no morals or ethics and you have done more illegal things than I can count in the last three years. You lied and got me put in jail. You falsified testimony to get restraining orders on me. I am not safe around you and my children are not safe around you. My anxiety reaches epic proportions just thinking about this stuff. You were reported to the GAL for abusing Trinity and for driving drunk with my children in the car but you still manipulated her into going after ME when I didn't do a thing. She couldn't touch me though because truth doesn't compromise and I've done NOTHING wrong. Yet somehow you were never reprimanded for anything that you did. You could have killed one of my children driving drunk with them!!! Do you understand that???

You were NEVER raped. You were NEVER abused. You simply cheated on your husband and started destroying everything in your path, including your own children who you abandoned for seven months from May to December 2017, to be with another guy. I am not the problem and I never will be. I am just trying to raise my children with integrity and I've even been trying to lead you in the right direction. I am a very good person who doesn't deserve what you have done and in no way, shape or form do you deserve me. I'm out of your league.

I heard nothing about any app in that courtroom. I heard that you are supposed to send me half of the adoption subsidy which you refuse to do. The kids need so many things that you refuse to provide. The church bought us food. Thank God for that. My mom is buying them bed frames. I used a credit card to get them new blankets. I'm going to ask your dad, Bryan, for help with Trinity's box spring that I asked you to help with months ago because her mattress is on the floor right now. No mother on the face of this planet would do what you've done to these children.

That Kroger VISA was mistakenly used on the cruise and I immediately paid back what was spent after I realized the mistake. BUT.... according to your precious court order you were supposed to close that account over a year ago. YOUR responsibility. I have been closing the accounts that you were ordered to in order to protect my own credit because you haven't done a thing. You have no idea how hard it is to be nice to you after you have attempted to destroy me for the last two years but I always try my best to say nice things about you and make excuses for your insane and/or childish behavior. But there comes a time when a person has to stand up for themselves and that time is NOW. You will no longer control me. You had more than enough time to make amends to your family and fix everything you destroyed. It's too late now. I can't control the collateral damage done to the kids any longer. You even attempted to manipulate the girls new therapist last week. Both of them came to me immediately and told me all about your shenanigans and how you made them uncomfortable. I listened to them all day the following day. They were very upset. I wish you had the ability to feel their pain like I do. I will no longer stand for anything or anyone who continues to harm my children.

I have NEVER EVER done a single thing to you. You have got to stop holding onto this unnecessary grudge you have because it is destroying us all.

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Make sure she is not correct about the court ordered app dude or they are going to come down on you. It sounds like you still love the ex and want to be with her. That’s Okay, nobody else has walked in your shoes and can understand. Keep the faith and somehow it will all work out.

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@Florida I haven’t received the court order yet and as soon as she started texting me this crap I called my attorney but couldn’t get in contact with him so I sent him an email saying I didn’t agree to using an app. I was told it was recommended but I didn’t agree to it and it was not even discussed in court. He’s the one writing up the order so he better not put that in there. I want away from her, not be forced to talk to her. She’s crazy man. Love her or not. I know what’s good for me and it’s not her. When I get the court order if it says use a stupid app I guess I have to but not until then. She was ordered to take my name off the mortgage and return my pistol 14 months ago and that hasn’t happened. She was also ordered 11 days ago, on the same day she claims this app was ordered, to give me half of our adopted kids adoption subsidies but she refuses to do that. She wants the app thing enforced but doesn’t want to pay support for her kids. Screw this system. They’ve let her get away with contempt for a long long time and there are no consequences. Even if they try that on me I know it will take months.

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Eddie did the Ukrainian work out?

Nice to hear from you. It’s hard to define if it worked out. I’ve been with the Ukrainian woman for four years now and I’ve been over there seven times to see her but we are still waiting on immigration to approve our application.

Wow. Even in war ? you’d think they would let residents out for safety. Well hopefully you can get here over here bud.

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I’ve been to Ukraine twice during this war. I was only a couple hours from Moscow. I got my congressman involved and he inquired with immigration on my behalf and they said they are still working on my background check. My guess is that since my ex got restraining orders on me a couple of times and SHE got me arrested along with herself for beating our son in 2016 that they are checking me out thoroughly. They’ve already denied my application four times, but no reason given, but I keep reapplying over and over. If they deny me again I’m going to ask someone else to sponsor her or maybe a local church.

It doesn’t sound like they will approve it to be honest. I think you’re right about the arrest etc…
Do you need to be cleared by the Ukrainians to sponsor her? What a nightmare. I wish you luck.

I only need to be cleared by the US Government. She does too. I’ve seen this process play out in one month but I’ve been waiting almost 11 months. I’m afraid I’m going to have to figure something else out. My mother even co-sponsored with me this time but it’s still taking forever.

Sounds odd that it’s been taking ages for the government to clear you. I would go absolutely crazy.

yea, it does drive me crazy. But it’s the government so there’s nothing I can do. I’m sure they will probably deny it anyway because in 2017-2018 when my ex beat our son and got us both thrown in jail for it then wanted a divorce so bad she accused me of beating her, all that is on my record. On paper I look like a monster. Although this woman overseas I met knows better after four years. I’m just screwed.