My best friend unfriended my narc on facebook 2 years ago, but he only just noticed yesterday. He thinks it is because I have told her about our impending divorce. I do lean on the few friends I have for moral support and don't plan to stop. He has decided to "forbid me from talking to her". He things she will tell others and what they will think about him. He also has commanded me to not let her be around our kids. So typical narc. So wounded and desperate. First of all, he needs to live with his horrible life choices, second of all, he has no consideration at all for what I am going through thanks to his cheating, lying and abuse. What an effin joke. He has no say over me or my decisions any more. I feel like telling the whole world about this monster.
P.S. I also unfriended him on facebook yesterday. You should have seen the look on his face!
I don't know your whole story but if divorce is the answer, tell him to F off and move on. He can't forbid you to talk to your friend. It will all come out eventually. Deal with it.
@misstolerant good for you on the FB!!! And don't let him control you anymore than he does ! You'll rebound from this ! It's hard work and takes time but you are worth more than he's ever given you !
Thanks. I may not be free from seeing his face everyday, but I am building up a support of family and friends. For so long I was never free to talk to them without fear of his wrath. I was also ashamed. I still can't go into detail with them about all he has done it is so embarrassing. But I do feel more emotionally strong when it comes to handling his moods and unreasonable requests. How are you @bcpgrad? No more drinking and dialing/emailing I hope? :-)
@misstolerant good for you ! It does take time to get your bearings and get away from feeling so embarrassed about it . But again , most people don’t understand it unless they’ve been through it or are educated on it . I have faith in you ! You’re going to get through this and we are all here to support you . Make a list of the bad things if that will help you !! Anything ! . No … No more drunk emailing ! I’m trying to make myself ok with what I did say and even though his reply was all about his journey since January , his path to peace , his trying to contact me etc . It was nothing more than him
Saying he was angry at me just as before because I of what I didn’t do . But at least I said a little something .
good to hear. there were lots of posts on here that were pretty complex that went unanswered. you are the anchor for a lot of us. No pressure. LOL. Hugs.