my dad has the most negative energy around the house and it seems like whatever i do is not good enough he is very unsupportive emotionally like dont get me wrong financially he is great but for the past 3 years his energy has just been making me extremly depressed and ive just come to terms with the fact that i am depressed and partially its because of him he always initiates fights with me up on the stupidest stuff and all i wish for is for me to be able to spend 1 day without fighting and having a great time with my family but he always ruins the mood the past 2 yrs of my life have been extremly horrible i am so stressed out and lost and he just makes all these emotions 10 times worse
Unfortunately we cannot make someone see reason, make them feel sorry, or change the way they think or act. We can only decide how we are going to deal with them. I wonder how you might be able to change your reactions to your father which might make him change the way he treats you. I think you deserve respect, support and love, I think he might need to understand how to treat you. What does the group think?
Tough situation. I guess in the short term, all you can do is try and keep some distance somehow.
wow you just described my relationship with my father ughhhh he financially helps me from time to time and he acts like that gives him the right to judge me and run me. I feel for you!
Why don't you ask him what's bothering him. Maybe he needs someone to talk to as much as you do. Maybe he feels like a wallet and not a dad. Talk to him.