I just found out that my daughter who is 25 is pregnant by a black male, she is caucasian. It was sort of a fling she said. The condom broke so therefore a baby will be born sometime in the middle of May. The father is younger than her and is attending a good college yet and does not want anything to mess it up. He told her he would pay for an abortion. My daughter will not do it. I am proud of her for that, but yet I am concerned about her future and the baby being biracial. I guess because we are an caucasian family I was always thinking caucasian grandchild. My daughter in the past few years has always been more attracted to black men. We did not raise her to be prejuidice and I did not think I was, until she started to favor African American men. My husband and I love her dearly and since she is an adult and free to make her own decisions, we did not make any waves about it.
She has already been to the doctor and I went with her yesterday and heard the baby's heartbeat. It was amazing. Still I just cannot get real excited due to her circumstances and how it all came about that she is now pregnant. Water over the bridge now. I just really have to pray for acceptance on the biracial part. I mean this baby is half my daughter's and that is the only thing that is getting me through right now. She will have a not so easy road ahead of her. She does have a nice job and is taking online courses to get her degree, so she does have her head together. Just still plain worried that's all.
Could use some support from anyone who was or in the same boat as me. I want to be a good grandmother for my daughter's sake.
Mainly, just support your daughter and her choices. It's completely her choice to make and this isn't something she needs to go though alone. I was only 17 when I had my daughter. It wasn't under the same circumstances, but at first, my family disowned me. 22 years later, my daughter ready to graduate from college, things are different and my family worked things out. I still had to go through, the most precious time alone. You don't want to miss out on that! My mom watched me give birth to my daughter. I don't think she would have missed it for the world, and she is glad she didn't. Good luck to you both.
Hi Yardsaleaddict, thank you so much for sharing your story. I think that you are so amazing for being there for you daughter, because I've heard of so many stories where families disown their children for something as such. The fact that you are working towards acceptance is wonderful, you are well on your way and will get there. Take it one day at a time and look forward to an amazing new addition to your family, it's such a blessing. And, continue on your path of supporting your fantastic daughter, she sounds like such a strong and intelligent woman, you should be so proud of her, which I am sure that you are. Please keep us up-to-date on how you and your daughter are doing.
I just want to say I am a biracial child Mex/white do you love your daughter??? This child no matter the color is your grandchild!!!! You better get it together and FAST!!!! I could tell the family that did not approve of my white mom being with a mexican man and us being biracial... IT HURTS TO HAVE FAMILY HAVE TO TRY TO ACCEPT YOU. When they should just love you because you are family. And if you think your daughter wont be able to tell your crazy. You need to be supportive and love your daughter and your grandbaby regardless. Because the last thing you want to do is drive a wedge between you. And I have also been a single mom and the person I needed MOST was my mom don't let your daughter down now.
im not trying to be rude but its already done stressing over it isnt gonna help...another thing im mixed im 3 diff races and guys love it , im diff i dont look like anyone else , guys love my lips , my eyes , my skin . this is 2011 times have changed no one stays in their race anymore right now im talking to a white guy hes nice so far doesnt care that im mixed and i dont care hes white what matter is how hes treats me when i hangout with him i see him his soul NOT HIS race and yea older people look at us funny but we dont care ! . and after she has the baby make sure she gets on birth control and be there for her shes your child NO MATTER WHAT!!!!! luv her she needs it right now...
I agree to just support your child. Thankfully it is no longer difficult to be bi-racial & I can guarantee you will love your grandchild regardless of what she looks like. I am not bi-racial (i;m mexican) but very pale so people assume i am bi-racia part caucasian/part asian which i don't get--but i've only gotten compliments for people assumig i''m bi-racial never any criticism. I'm not that into fashiom-but my sister is--and bi-racial/ambiguous ethniticity is the trend right now in runway models/suprtmodels-so please do not worry that things will be harder on your grandchild-in most areas of the us it is completely accepted except for a few ignorant people. I do hope the father decided to be involved in your grandchild's life and help your daughter out because the absence of a father/help will be the hardest for your daughter & granddaughter. Right now your daughter just needs you to be there for her & support her regardless of what preference you might have in terms of what race you prefer dating. Good luck and congrats on being a soon to be grandparent!
I agree to just support your child. Thankfully it is no longer difficult to be bi-racial & I can guarantee you will love your grandchild regardless of what she looks like. I am not bi-racial (i;m mexican) but very pale so people assume i am bi-racial part caucasian/part hispanic and someone once even asked if i was part asian which i don't get--but i've only gotten compliments from people assumig i''m bi-racial never any criticism. I'm not that into fashion-but my sister is--and bi-racial/ambiguous ethniticity is the trend right now in runway models/suprtmodels-so please do not worry that things will be harder on your grandchild-in most areas of the us it is completely accepted except for a few ignorant people.Race really doesn;t matter it is the quality of the person--and a grandparent you will get to share the joy of raising this child & see he/she grow up to be an amazing person! I do hope the father decides to be involved in your grandchild's life and help your daughter out because the absence of a father/help will be the hardest for your daughter & grandchild. Right now your daughter just needs you to be there for her & support her regardless of what preference you might have in terms of what race you prefer dating. Havig an unexpected child is a hard situation & your daughter will need your support, acceptance, and love! Good luck and congrats on being a soon to be grandparent!